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applegrove

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I got my birth certificate for free. BlueTsunami2018 Sep 22 #1
Most states charge some money Diraven Sep 22 #6
I have maintained for decades that married women assuming their husband's surname was a bad idea hlthe2b Sep 22 #2
Love my husband SheLiberal Sep 22 #12
My grand daughter kept her maiden name Tree Lady Sep 22 #15
Don't forget the Dissolution of Marriage with name restoration flvegan Sep 22 #3
Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it. Bernardo de La Paz Sep 22 #4
Counties are charging women for copies of birth certificates, but not men? MichMan Sep 22 #5
The men don't need real id to prove a former name. applegrove Sep 22 #8
Still requires a birth certificate for a Real ID MichMan Sep 22 #9
Sorry. I think they can use a passport or whatever applegrove Sep 22 #14
They can use a passport for the Real ID also... SickOfTheOnePct Sep 22 #18
Women don't have to change their name SickOfTheOnePct Sep 22 #10
Big deal DiverDave Sep 22 #7
My wife didn't change her name. Nor did I. hunter Sep 22 #11
What did you use as ID when you voted? applegrove Sep 22 #17
Real ID is not required to vote n/t SickOfTheOnePct Sep 22 #19
No ID. California mail-in ballots. hunter Sep 22 #20
Lucky you are. applegrove Sep 22 #21
Anyone that changes their name needs additional documentation regarding the name change sl8 Sep 22 #13
But the women need to change ID more often. They need Real ID more often. applegrove Sep 22 #16

BlueTsunami2018

(4,716 posts)
1. I got my birth certificate for free.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:08 PM
Sep 22

Just asked for it online. Was mailed within a week. Same with my SS card.

I’m pretty sure you can get whatever document you need fairly easy.

Diraven

(1,719 posts)
6. Most states charge some money
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:22 PM
Sep 22

My state of Arkansas charges $12 for a copy of a birth certificate. Nevada charges the most: $33.

hlthe2b

(111,975 posts)
2. I have maintained for decades that married women assuming their husband's surname was a bad idea
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:08 PM
Sep 22

That has always been the case for women professionals, and even my own father advised me on that score.

I know it gets tricky when children are expected to be a factor, but this disgraceful attack on women's voting rights says it all (as if there were not a zillion other assaults to be considered on that score).

SheLiberal

(74 posts)
12. Love my husband
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:40 PM
Sep 22

But I regret changing my name and encouraged my daughter not to do it.

Tree Lady

(12,860 posts)
15. My grand daughter kept her maiden name
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:02 PM
Sep 22

And her new husband who was raised badly by his father changed to hers.

flvegan

(65,426 posts)
3. Don't forget the Dissolution of Marriage with name restoration
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:10 PM
Sep 22

if they get divorced. Here in Florida, that means getting a certified copy of the recorded divorce ($$) IIRC.

Bernardo de La Paz

(60,068 posts)
4. Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:11 PM
Sep 22

"Maiden name" and "married name" are outdated claptrap that should be discarded forthwith.

When I got married (for a while) my wife kept her name. She asked me what I thought about it and I shrugged my shoulders and said I thought it was fine.

MichMan

(16,187 posts)
5. Counties are charging women for copies of birth certificates, but not men?
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:15 PM
Sep 22

applegrove

(129,076 posts)
8. The men don't need real id to prove a former name.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:25 PM
Sep 22

Their name never changes.

MichMan

(16,187 posts)
9. Still requires a birth certificate for a Real ID
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:29 PM
Sep 22

At least I had to show one

applegrove

(129,076 posts)
14. Sorry. I think they can use a passport or whatever
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:59 PM
Sep 22

to vote no? Plus they don't have to change their Real ID when they marry or divorce.

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,710 posts)
18. They can use a passport for the Real ID also...
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:07 PM
Sep 22

...instead of a birth certificate and marriage certificate.

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,710 posts)
10. Women don't have to change their name
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:31 PM
Sep 22

And I'm curious as to how many women this actually affects.

DiverDave

(5,191 posts)
7. Big deal
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:23 PM
Sep 22

Cost me 25 for a birth certificate. But I changed states, so 100 for real ID.
Sounds like someone doesn't like women.
Blame someone else, how very adult.

hunter

(40,130 posts)
11. My wife didn't change her name. Nor did I.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:37 PM
Sep 22

I haven't got a "Real ID" and nobody has forced me to get one yet.

The whole thing offends me.

applegrove

(129,076 posts)
17. What did you use as ID when you voted?
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:05 PM
Sep 22

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,710 posts)
19. Real ID is not required to vote n/t
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:08 PM
Sep 22

hunter

(40,130 posts)
20. No ID. California mail-in ballots.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:09 PM
Sep 22

These can be dropped off at polling places too.

applegrove

(129,076 posts)
21. Lucky you are.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:09 PM
Sep 22

sl8

(16,932 posts)
13. Anyone that changes their name needs additional documentation regarding the name change
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:48 PM
Sep 22

No doubt women that get married are the largest part of that cohort, but the additional documentation required for Real ID applies to anyone that legally changes their name.

Documentation might be marriage/divorce papers, adoption papers, court orders, etc..

I'm not aware of a different birth certificate requirement for married women than for anyone else.

applegrove

(129,076 posts)
16. But the women need to change ID more often. They need Real ID more often.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:04 PM
Sep 22

So if they lose a birth certificate they need to get one more often than men. Because men's names never change so they don't have to be as careful with documentation.

I didn't think what I was posting was controversial.

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