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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI was diagnoised in 2013...
I have frontotemporal dementia: https://www.theaftd.org/what-is-ftd/disease-overview/
It is getting worse. I saw my doctor Friday. He decided it is time to take a driving test. That will be Thursday after noon.

https://www.theaftd.org/posts/uncategorized/driving-and-ftd/
I will check in with the results. Wish me luck.

OS

Shellback Squid
(9,427 posts)MLAA
(19,303 posts)I admire you and sending good vibes to you.
hlthe2b
(110,309 posts)THAT as well as all my hopes for advancements in FTD. You are a treasure and we all want to keep you around, sharp as ever, and active.
MontanaMama
(24,482 posts)Ill be thinking about you this week and waiting to hear about your test.
magicarpet
(18,455 posts)Hopefully your mobility will be restriction free.
CountAllVotes
(21,803 posts)Numb feet, numb hands.
Need to use cruise control a lot.
If it comes to this, it will.
I've been able to drive for almost 55 years now and if it isn't safe to do so any longer, so be it.
Best of luck Steve!
Attilatheblond
(6,360 posts)Less friction with the pavement means Cruise Control can think you're going slower than you are and it might speed up more than is safe. At least that is what a car guy told us and it makes some sense.
Hope you get to drive a while longer. I fear my time to hand over the keys is coming sooner than later, for similar reasons. Arthritis in spine making for poorer nerve impulses to arms and legs.
CountAllVotes
(21,803 posts)Typing is difficult now.
My medication is "no longer available" is the status.
I'm slowly going down. Sad.
Attilatheblond
(6,360 posts)Hope we ALL have lovely memories to savor as our worlds shrink and options lessen
KT2000
(21,501 posts)
jmbar2
(6,945 posts)I would have never guessed from your posts that you were dealing with this. I am so sorry you are facing such a scary diagnosis. Peace be with you.
Tetrachloride
(8,779 posts)gl
Hekate
(98,188 posts)AnotherMother4Peace
(4,761 posts)the train up the coast. It makes for less stress.
1WorldHope
(1,326 posts)My husband would look for another doctor or just stop going to any doctor. I wish for your well being whatever the outcome. Who will test you? Is he sending you to the DMV or like Madonna?
Omaha Steve
(105,916 posts)First there is a written test. IF I pass that, a driving test will follow. It takes about 3 hours.
1WorldHope
(1,326 posts)I'm pretty sure I could fail the written test on a good day. Good luck to you Steve!
What?
TommyT139
(1,530 posts)...allows for consideration of more factors in the driver's condition, skills, possible deficits, and other more tangential aspects (other chronic health conditions, vision, if any medications affect driving, etc).
A longer assessment can also help to provide the driver with any possible assistance -- there are evidently occupational therapists/driving coaches who may help fine-tune or suggest workarounds. They can also educate the driver and any family members about things to look out for over time that might suggest a change in ability.
I got most of this from an excellent general article on the topic:
https://drivingtoindependence.com/a-guide-to-driving-assessments-for-seniors-with-dementia/
And also a more technical summary of research -- I did some grad school in psych, so I tend to nerd out.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187703/
Omaha Steve, I too have benefited from your posts...and will continue to do so! Best of luck.
DFW
(58,268 posts)Granted, you have had a long time to get adjusted to this, but that begs the question whether it is possible to really get "adjested" to something that remains a moving target.
One of my best friends in Dallas has a B-I-L who gravely damaged his frontal lobes in a motorcycle accident when he was 20 (about 50 years ago), and whereas he is fully cognizant, he has little capacity for logic and no emotional stamina whatsoever. He flies off the handle if the shower water is off by 5 degrees in either direction, so obviously he hasn't been able to drive at all. Road rage gets you killed in Texas. If he sees a problem (the latest is black mold), if he decides it has been present in a car, he will never set foot in that car, whether or not there is any factual basis for this. My friend's wife is his twin sister, and she has been putting up with this as his unofficial caregiver for fifty years..
People can make light of this kind of affliction, but it is burden on both the caregivers and the victim, at least, as long as the victim is aware of the situation.
Kudos for your coping, no matter what the result this time. Far from everyone that travels this road does so as calmly.
surfered
(7,383 posts)DallasNE
(7,810 posts)We have been blessed with Omaha Steve's frequent, cogent contributions over the last 12 years. I look forward to many more, and good luck with the driving test OS.
lostnfound
(17,017 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,590 posts)My family is down to 3 of us remaining siblings. We are all seniors, and from my end, both of my sisters have cognitive impairments (one is diagnosed as such and has been all of her life; the other sister is undiagnosed as far as mental, and it is my speculation alone. But she lives in a state that has legal and medical marijuana, and she is a daily patient because of aches and pains, so I know much of what I experience of her personality could be the use of medical MJ, and I don't judge her or have an opinion; it is her choice.
I have had recent trauma from a concussion and, most recently, a slip/fall that jarred my whole body. It was an accident that put me off work for a few weeks, so I have been on DU more than ever.
I am really sensitive to our situation because, as seniors, major decisions need to be made, and wills/documents should be in order so that it is not a mess for the survivors.
It is especially difficult because I am the only one lucid enough to realize these circumstances, and we don't have anything in place to protect the vulnerability that can occur at any time to any one of us.
I wonder at times if I suffer from the initial stages since it can come on slowly and progress.
You are a treasure I have always enjoyed your input and hard work on this site. Best wishes, OS, I look forward to reading your Thursday update.
erronis
(20,216 posts)Many/most of us have been or will be in similar situations. It's good to share our own experiences so others can be a bit more prepared.
peacebuzzard
(5,590 posts)like walking into a room and forgetting why I went there.
But then I think I have been doing that for decades and especially after cocktail hour. ( I don't do that often, but I enjoy a Pilsner or organic cab at times)
Ziggysmom
(3,820 posts)loss of independence it can be. Safety of you and other drivers is #1 though.
jgo
(994 posts)niyad
(124,508 posts)Maraya1969
(23,292 posts)diseases. In the meantime,:I'll be sending you white light and love.
Evolve Dammit
(20,843 posts)gademocrat7
(11,525 posts)Take care.
highplainsdem
(56,749 posts)imagine that you have FTD. I'm hoping that your doctor is just being extra cautious (a good thing for a doctor to be) and you'll pass both tests easily.
TommieMommy
(2,090 posts)no_hypocrisy
(51,901 posts)Slow, steady, focused.
peacebuzzard
(5,590 posts)I tend to rush too much. Always running everywhere,
I think slowing down and focusing more is good for most people at any stage.
less is more.
calimary
(86,711 posts)"Slow, steady, focused."
And you've got us, too, Steve. We're with you on this journey. Seems to me there are many valuable things to learn, in the process.
benfranklin1776
(6,897 posts)Many hugs and much support ✊🏼
Duncanpup
(14,678 posts)3Hotdogs
(14,262 posts)Best wishes
barbtries
(30,496 posts)you have done so much in spite of your diagnosis, I am in awe of you.
SheltieLover
(70,225 posts)
Dem2theMax
(10,725 posts)I'm hoping for the best outcome possible for you. To me, you are one of the pillars of DU, and we need you here.
multigraincracker
(35,866 posts)I just hit my expiration date. Im good with it. Its all extra now.
LoisB
(10,810 posts)BComplex
(9,469 posts)you have helped people on DU, through good times and bad, getting people on ballots, helping raise funds, just doing the good work of helping people stay sane through republican mismanagement of everything. You have to know that we love you and support you in everything you do.
Best of luck with your tests, my friend!
JMCKUSICK
(2,761 posts)I pray your transition is gentle and takes forever. You are far too important to us.
Thank you for all you do and the energy that you offer all of us.
debm55
(46,148 posts)
wordstroken
(1,195 posts)The thing that works best for me during challenging times ever since kidhood, is to truly believe that little voice inside my head that whispers, I can do this!
And mostly that voice is right.
You got this, OS!
Groundhawg
(1,139 posts)Emile
(35,231 posts)
Mad_Dem_X
(9,948 posts)
Permanut
(7,174 posts)LizVerite
(24 posts)I'm very sorry. It runs in my family.
Good luck!
Wild blueberry
(7,696 posts)You are a treasure, and all your DU friends are with you.
Come what may, you and your loved ones will figure it out.
Big hug!
GoneOffShore
(17,821 posts)Figarosmom
(6,320 posts)Shipwack
(2,738 posts)3catwoman3
(26,891 posts)Wishing you strength and serenity and good luck.
whathehell
(30,165 posts)
bee_peaceful
(84 posts)brain function.
Sending you all the best my friend.
beveeheart
(1,487 posts)
stillcool
(34,259 posts)door closed, door opens, hallways suck.
True Dough
(23,360 posts)and if not, I hope there's a viable option to help get you around whenever you need it.
All the best to you, and thanks for all the fundraising you promote around these parts!
JoseBalow
(7,697 posts)
ReRe
(11,682 posts)No ! Do you hear?
Ocelot II
(125,360 posts)
hamsterjill
(16,020 posts)Wishing you the best of luck with this. I admire your courage and acceptance, and I always want good outcomes for good people!
boonecreek
(1,041 posts)Here's hoping for the best.
Karadeniz
(24,515 posts)Niagara
(10,765 posts)You keep track of everything and you do a great damn job of it too!
I don't know how you do it, OS. I'm not sure if I'm that organized to keep track of it all.
I admire you for doing this selfless act for us, so thank you for all that you do.
I'm sending you the best of luck as always, OS.
liberalla
(10,552 posts)Get a good night's sleep. Do some stretches to loosen the muscles and relieve some tension. Deep breaths... Imagine or "see" in your mind a pleasant drive on a beautiful day and a positive result on your driving test. I wish this for you!
OldBaldy1701E
(8,112 posts)HeartsCanHope
(1,088 posts)
BonnieJW
(2,936 posts)Clouds Passing
(5,209 posts)You are a treasure 🩷🩵💛
cachukis
(3,280 posts)Fla Dem
(26,816 posts)May you continue for many more years.
Nigrum Cattus
(640 posts)Omaha Steve
(105,916 posts)I've been on that a couple of years now. Thanks for the tip.
OS
love_katz
(3,094 posts)
MLAA
(19,303 posts)Sending healing vibes your way. I admire you.
I accidentally replied to anothers reply earlier.
elleng
(139,790 posts)Dad was smart enough to stop driving, and give me his car; I was thankful for both.
FakeNoose
(37,610 posts)FTD is something that runs in my family also. For us it's a genetic inheritance from our mother, and her father, and we're not sure how far back it goes. It's lucky to be living now because new research is being done on FTD like never before. We're hoping and praying for a breakthrough. Good luck, dear Steve.
kgray96057
(29 posts)The DMV has a practice test online. The practice test is drawn from the bank of questions asked for the actual test. I set it for 99 questions and ran it for 2 weeks, daily, until I felt confident. They ask far fewer questions on the actual test. By the time I took it, they were all old friends.
Easterncedar
(4,545 posts)applegrove
(126,351 posts)Dorothy V
(343 posts)Thank you for all you do.
Praying for you.
marble falls
(66,159 posts)58Sunliner
(5,807 posts)Grumpy Old Guy
(3,918 posts)
BigmanPigman
(53,218 posts)I am rapidly getting dementia. Simple words and simple math have become more difficult within the past year. My Prim Care Doctor wasn't alarmed but I can tell there is definitely a big change.
I tried to find out how to renew my Dr License last week and after 2 1/2 hours on the useless DMV web site I gave up on trying to figure out why they would not let me make an appointment. Finally I went to Reddit for some decent info. It seems that you can renew it on line only 2 consecutive times in CA. Why doesn't their web site say that?!?!?!?
Then, to make "an appointment" there is more confusion (naturally). I have no idea what to do and I live only 2 blocks from the DMV. I "think" you have to go in to the DMV with some secret code on your phone and once you get into the DMV you show someone/something your cell phone secret code and that is supposed to be your "appointment". It sounds bogus. I assume that I will have to stand in line for 2 hours just to be told that it is incorrect and I need to stand in at least one more line. Since I literally live a 5 minute walk away it would be easier to wait at home and walk over once my "secret appointment number" at my appointment time. Since this is the CA DMV they do NOT make sense at all and love to torture people. The DMV are sadists!
I hope your local DMV is run better than mine. I have to get a new photo and eye test. This will take an entire day since the DMV lines are literally around the block and have been since 1988 when I moved here.
electric_blue68
(21,874 posts)Rhiannon12866
(236,732 posts)

Bumbles
(394 posts)My former husband had the same diagnosis. It is a difficult condition to deal with. You seem to have had many good years since your diagnosis. My ex learned at 76 and deteriorated quickly. I wish you the best in dealing with it.
Be The Light
(101 posts)when they will take my car away. I'm 69 and been driving since 16.
So I'm rooting for you man! Just remember, most driving is like riding a bike.
Hard wired. Keep me updated!
malaise
(285,503 posts)and had her take a good friend off the road. He was a danger to himself and others.
All the best but sometimes we have to police ourselves.
Moostache
(10,607 posts)I truly hope you receive good news.
samnsara
(18,552 posts)..his brother and dad passed of a brain tumor. No news yet.
Please take care.
Polybius
(20,229 posts)May I ask how old you are?
Omaha Steve
(105,916 posts)