Suggestions please, my neighbor had all her toes removed on her left foot.

[a kennedy]

Her husband has done a lot of stuff for me since my husband passed away last May. I gave him $100.00 for Christmas and for his birthday. Now…..what should I do for his wife?? We’re just neighbors, don’t do stuff together or aren’t close like that……am just wondering what I could do for her. I don’t cook or bake so that’s out. Would like to do something, just not sure what. Thanks for any ideas.

[WhiteTara]

1. maybe go do her dishes, or vacuum her house

not constantly, but a couple of times over the next few months? I know that sometimes I'm so overwhelmed with the house, it's been a blessing when a friend came and bailed me out.

[Phoenix61]

3. Those are great ideas! I despise doing both of those. nt

[a kennedy]

4. These are great ideas.

Thanks.

[WhiteTara]

12. you're welcome

It's always easier to clean for someone else than for yourself.

[Phoenix61]

2. A really nice card? Transportation if she needs a ride somewhere?

That’s a hard one. Gift card to a coffee shop?

[a kennedy]

5. Thanks......she does have her husband AND a daughter does live just down the block......

But I could offer.

[chouchou]

6. There's many restaurants that use companies like "Door-Dash" for invalids ..and such.

I gave a 125 dollar coupon to a restauant ..here in Sarasota. The lady really appreciated the gift. She didn't like going out.

[a kennedy]

7. Great idea.......thanks

[chouchou]

15. My Pleasure. Hope she works it out. From what I've read..

(in the past hour)..it can be a chore to get your balance again. BUT..people do recover.

[MontanaMama]

8. Maybe just ask her how she's doing

and how things are going post surgery? I would think that would be a painful procedure. During the conversation, she might let you know what’s hard for her.

[a kennedy]

10. Yah, her husband did say "come over and talk to her"

Thanks.

[Botany]

9. Get her some coffee and pastries for breakfast or some fruit or a charcuterie board.

The best is just be a friend and call and let her talk. She might have osteomyelitis* and that is
tough nut to crack. It is a long tough journey. I know I had it. She will not be able to walk so
maybe just taking her out for a walk in wheelchair.

*. Hence all my posting.

[a kennedy]

11. With the weather getting nice, getting her out might be a great idea.....

Thanks.

[Nanuke]

13. Ask what she likes to read and get her books/mags from the library. Return or renew them when due. Repeat.

[a kennedy]

17. These are good ideas.....thank you.

[SheltieLover]

14. Ask her what she would like?

Offer to send them a couple of meals from a restaurant?

Ask her if she would like flowers?

Might be an opportunity to make a new friend.

Just some ideas.

[a kennedy]

18. Went to see her, and she's set up in their living room......huge walking boot on her foot.

Might be losing a couple more toes on other foot. She did say the 3 stints she had put in are helping with blood flow, so that was good. Told her I would be here for her, and that she just needed to call me. She does have another daughter living right next door, so she does have two daughters, and her husband to help. I am gonna bring some flowers…Spring is here, and those would be great. Thanks.

[SheltieLover]

20. I'm glad you visited her

Flowers sound lovely!

[LogDog75]

16. Let her know if she needs some help you'll be there

Just letting her know you care and will help her from time to time should be enough. Make sure she understands you won't be there constantly but in an emergency.

[a kennedy]

19. Yup, I did tell her that I am here......just told here to call.

Thank you.

[soldierant]

21. My first reaction wouldn't be a good idea, but it might lead to one.

It was to get her in touch with that group I can't remember the name of that matched people with other people whose feet do not use the same size shoe. I say it isn't a good idea now because it's too early to tell - the surgery isn't healed enough for one thing and you mentioned possible work on the other foot as well for another. So it's too soon to even know what she will need. But she will need specialty footwear at some point. You could start doing research now.

[a kennedy]

22. Oh my, never even thought of this......thank you so much.

I’m just sick for her......and she was pretty tiny to begin with.....now I think she said she weighs 85 lbs!!!!! Her Dr. told her to EAT, EAT, EAT.