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Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:31 PM 16 hrs ago

Well, my husband just got laid off

with two weeks' notice. He's one of 500 people being let go.

In some ways it's a mixed blessing. The job is so high-stress that I've worried he could have a heart attack. He works late nights, weekends, holidays. Last night he worked past 4 a.m. At least he's been able to work from home in recent years. Last year he couldn't even take time off for a vacation.

His employer contracts with the federal government. He has a top secret security clearance and manages databases for two US government agencies. When there's a government shutdown, his job is mission-critical so he has to keep working. He's been there about 13 years as a senior Oracle DBA. He was planning to retire after he turns 70 this fall.

Well, I just needed to let off some steam. Thanks for reading.












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Well, my husband just got laid off (Original Post) Wicked Blue 16 hrs ago OP
I'm so sorry not sorry! ms liberty 16 hrs ago #1
Thank you Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #20
I'm sorry things didn't go as planned but I hope it ends up being a blessing anyway biophile 16 hrs ago #2
Thank you Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #21
I hope he can just retire & enjoy life now! SheltieLover 16 hrs ago #3
Thanks, SheltieLover Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #22
Been there, security clearance, government contractor... LuckyCharms 16 hrs ago #4
Thanks for the encouragement Wicked Blue 15 hrs ago #6
Sorry to hear. Bristlecone 16 hrs ago #5
Thank you Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #23
Get a few thumb drives . . . AverageOldGuy 15 hrs ago #7
I think what you're suggesting may be a crime AZ8theist 14 hrs ago #12
He has to return the laptop Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #25
At age 69 he may have a case to sue and be allowed to retire as an alternative to being laid off. patphil 15 hrs ago #8
It might depend what's better retirement vs severance package. dflprincess 14 hrs ago #18
We have to watch our pennies Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #26
Sorry to hear this... jlshaw47 15 hrs ago #9
Thanks Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #28
Collect unemployment - then RETIRE! nt Exp 15 hrs ago #10
Thanks for the reminder - I forgot about unemployment Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #30
I'll be joining him soon Xipe Totec 15 hrs ago #11
Best of luck to you! Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #31
Hey, I hope this all ends up being a better thing. herding cats 14 hrs ago #13
Thank you so much! Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #32
Sorry to hear that. Coloradan4Truth 14 hrs ago #14
The federal government is being destroyed Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #33
Hi Wicked... Coloradan4Truth 2 hrs ago #44
Now, versus nine months from now? nilram 14 hrs ago #15
You raise some great points Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #35
Unemployed ms.pamela 14 hrs ago #16
Thank goodness he didn't work for Oracle! Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #36
I'm so sorry! Solly Mack 14 hrs ago #17
Thanks, Solly! Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #37
If they lay off 500 people they are required to give you more pay/motive than that JT45242 13 hrs ago #19
Is that for government employees? Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #38
I think it is all companies of that size...@omahasteve JT45242 3 hrs ago #43
Best of Luck With This modrepub 13 hrs ago #24
Thanks! I really hope he doesn't work full time any more Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #39
I'm sorry to hear that. area51 13 hrs ago #27
Thank you, area51 Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #40
trump is ruthless, vile and sadistic vapor2 13 hrs ago #29
I feel terrible for the federal workers who got DOGEd. Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #41
Hope it turns into a blessing for you Lifeafter70 13 hrs ago #34
It's good that you can spend more time with your son. Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #42
Apply for unemployment, food stamps, whatever is currently available. stollen 2 hrs ago #45

biophile

(1,304 posts)
2. I'm sorry things didn't go as planned but I hope it ends up being a blessing anyway
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:36 PM
16 hrs ago

Sometimes, when decisions like this are made for us, it works out well. May this be the case for you and your husband!

LuckyCharms

(22,172 posts)
4. Been there, security clearance, government contractor...
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:43 PM
16 hrs ago

wicked hours.

You'll find out it's for the best.

it sounds like you will be ok financially since he was so close to retirement...so it may be a blessing!

Also, there may be a good chance that he can be hired as a consultant, maybe even hired as one by the same company, if he wishes to keep working for awhile.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
6. Thanks for the encouragement
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:12 PM
15 hrs ago

I'm not sure he'd want to do consulting - he'll figure something out.

Fortunately we don't have a mortgage.-


AverageOldGuy

(3,554 posts)
7. Get a few thumb drives . . .
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:32 PM
15 hrs ago

. . . . 16GB, 32GB, whatever.

Copy onto the thumb drives EVERTYHING he is working on.

Keep an inventory.

Give the inventory to a trusted friend so you don't have the inventory in your possession.

Erase all that from your computer and ditch the computer, or, do the work on a public wifi on a throw-away tablet or laptop. Then throw the device away.

Secret the thumb drives somewhere.

You'll know when to pull out the thumb drives and give them to the press.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
25. He has to return the laptop
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:30 PM
13 hrs ago

and Security would find out if he tried to download stuff. They monitor everything.

I don't think there's anything actually newsworthy regarding his clients.

patphil

(8,836 posts)
8. At age 69 he may have a case to sue and be allowed to retire as an alternative to being laid off.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:36 PM
15 hrs ago

You should get a lawyer and see what your legal alternatives are.

jlshaw47

(8 posts)
9. Sorry to hear this...
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:46 PM
15 hrs ago

…. Unfortunately just another chickenshit, mean spirited attack on a hard working public servant…. I hope it turns out to be a blessing.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
28. Thanks
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:35 PM
13 hrs ago

Actually he's not a government employee - works for a contractor.

His sister was a federal employee at the National Center for Atmospheric Research. She managed to retire just before the layoffs there started.

Xipe Totec

(44,507 posts)
11. I'll be joining him soon
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:59 PM
15 hrs ago

I'm just waiting to deliver the news. I turn 70 on Feb 12th. I'll tender my resignation the next day, Friday the 13th.

Time to walk away.

herding cats

(19,995 posts)
13. Hey, I hope this all ends up being a better thing.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:15 PM
14 hrs ago

My heart and thoughts are with you. I have faith you'll end up being good.

Coloradan4Truth

(405 posts)
14. Sorry to hear that.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:21 PM
14 hrs ago

I left a federal job last year before I really wanted to, but I couldn't stand what was happening in the agency.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
33. The federal government is being destroyed
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:38 PM
13 hrs ago

and the people now running it are monsters

I hope things are working out okay for you.

Coloradan4Truth

(405 posts)
44. Hi Wicked...
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 09:11 AM
2 hrs ago

Yes, I am doing well. I had only about 5 years to go anyway and thought I could take the hit better than younger folks. Also, I am a woke, minority, tree-hugger, so it wasn't going to be the dream job I loved anymore. I am catching little jobs now from friends who need my talents.

nilram

(3,507 posts)
15. Now, versus nine months from now?
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:31 PM
14 hrs ago

I hope you guys have a beautiful summer!

I agree with the thought of collecting unemployment. In this environment, he is unlikely to be audited if he doesn't complete the required number of job searches each and every week.

If he eventually does some consulting, it doesn't have to be direct, he could be an hourly employee of a service bureau. I've liked that for myself, it feels very honest. An hour of work: an hour of pay. (Though if he was direct to the government, he may have had a good arrangement.)

Layoffs are unsettling, and annoying. You guys are in such a great position, though, being without a mortgage. And now you both can attend more protests!

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
35. You raise some great points
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:43 PM
13 hrs ago

This all just happened and he hasn't really had time to think about what's next. Especially after getting only 4 hours' sleep last night because he worked until the wee hours. He's worked so many hours of unpaid OT that it could have amounted to year's pay or more.

ms.pamela

(80 posts)
16. Unemployed
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:32 PM
14 hrs ago

Oracle is not a very good company. They hired a friend of mine and had her work her ass off for about 8 to 10 months traveling all over the country making an international data base of anyone who was in any American hospitals' records with the bullshit reasoning that any doctor in the world could access your medical records if needed. After this work was almost complete, they laid about 2000 people working on this project off with little notice.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
36. Thank goodness he didn't work for Oracle!
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:46 PM
13 hrs ago

He worked for a federal contracting company that has contracts with various federal agencies.

JT45242

(3,923 posts)
19. If they lay off 500 people they are required to give you more pay/motive than that
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:10 PM
13 hrs ago

That should trigger the WARN act and 60 days pay. It still.sucks, but could give you time to find something.

JT45242

(3,923 posts)
43. I think it is all companies of that size...@omahasteve
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 08:13 AM
3 hrs ago

Omaha Steve or one of our legal eagles may be able to clarify. If not would be worth looking into finding a pro bono labor lawyer to see if they can help

modrepub

(4,018 posts)
24. Best of Luck With This
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:29 PM
13 hrs ago

Try and be as supportive as you can. Hopefully, in-time, things will work out for both of you.

Wife lost her job of almost 30 years in her early 50s. Work is a major part of her identity. She did eventually find something she enjoys but it took awhile and a lot of hustle.

TBH, I’d say your husband may have worked his last “real” job. Father was a main frame programmer laid off in his mid 50s. Was delivering for a deli before he finally retired.

I wish you and your husband much luck and joy in whatever you both decide to do next.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
39. Thanks! I really hope he doesn't work full time any more
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:53 PM
13 hrs ago

I'm sorry to hear about your wife's job loss.

I was laid off at 58 from a public relations company - had 25 years as a journalist before that. Did a little freelancing but that dried up too, and nobody seems to hire older women. I loved newspapeer reporting but I no longer have the energy for that at 73.

Wicked Blue

(8,712 posts)
41. I feel terrible for the federal workers who got DOGEd.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:57 PM
13 hrs ago

At least my husband wasn't a fed. He worked for a government contractor.

So many people have lost jobs in the past year - I am afraid we may have a recession or worse.

Lifeafter70

(805 posts)
34. Hope it turns into a blessing for you
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:42 PM
13 hrs ago

I retired not by choice last October. Was planning on working another two years.
My son went into hospice and I'm his caregiver. I was short 21 hours to qualify for fmla.
It turned into a blessing for me because it allows me to spend time with my son and not having to split my time between him and my job.
Sometimes life decides for you.

stollen

(1,069 posts)
45. Apply for unemployment, food stamps, whatever is currently available.
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 09:43 AM
2 hrs ago

Live off that for now. No one should have such a high stress job like that with no end in sight.

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