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lonely bird

(2,871 posts)
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 06:48 PM 9 hrs ago

Asking for some good vibes and prayers

Mrs. Bird has gone through a long stretch of pain. She had adult scoliosis correction in February of 2023. About a year later she had pain going down her right leg to her foot. We saw the doctor who did the surgery and after x-rays determined that the rods and screws (32 screws and 4 rods) were where they supposed to be. Suggested she see the pain doctor. So, we did. She had several injections some of which provided a bit of relief and some which didn’t. Pain and weakness became worse which necessitated going from a walking stick to a walker.

Our CNP suggested going outside our normal hospital/medical group to get fresh eyes on the problem. So we made an appointment. New spine doc took extensive history and asked many questions. He ordered an x-ray. When we saw it he noted that the scoliosis correction had been done very well. The back isn’t the problem. She needs a new hip. Surgery is scheduled for March 13. Basically, the ball has collapsed and is almost square shaped.

My wife has had a history of back issues that started with a blown out disc due to sneezing. After the micro lumbar discectomy in about 1987 or so she needed spinal decompression in 2016. One nerve was so flattened going through the vertebra that the sheaf was tearing. Within the next two weeks of that surgery she had two infections (one was staph) that required going back in to clean them out. That caused her scoliosis to really go nuts.

What she wants out of this is just to be able to walk without pain.

Thanks for listening.

Lonely Bird

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Asking for some good vibes and prayers (Original Post) lonely bird 9 hrs ago OP
Best of luck with your situation. OAITW r.2.0 9 hrs ago #1
Healing vibes head to your wife Lifeafter70 9 hrs ago #2
Healing vibes on the way SheltieLover 9 hrs ago #3
And from me! ++++++++ spooky3 9 hrs ago #11
... SheltieLover 9 hrs ago #12
Yuk SuzyandPuffpuff 9 hrs ago #4
Sending my best thoughts UpInArms 9 hrs ago #5
My best wishes to Mrs. Bird, and to you as well. LuckyCharms 9 hrs ago #6
Your wife has done everything to relieve this pain and as extensive as hip surgery is, I hope it's the answer Deuxcents 9 hrs ago #7
Sending strength and healing democrank 9 hrs ago #8
Sending healing vibes to your wife, lonely bird. sheshe2 9 hrs ago #9
Peace, strength, and rest wishes for you. quaint 9 hrs ago #10
She has endured so much already jmbar2 9 hrs ago #13
Sending good lounge vibes! Phentex 9 hrs ago #14
Sending... 2naSalit 9 hrs ago #15
From personal experience, collapsed hip repair was a piece of cake...though I did not have the other issues. joanbarnes 9 hrs ago #16
Holding you and Mrs. Bird in light and love. Vibes for swift and niyad 9 hrs ago #17
I will add both of you to my prayer list.lonely bird. debm55 9 hrs ago #18
Best wishes IbogaProject 8 hrs ago #19
May good vibes stage left 8 hrs ago #20
Hip surgery has advanced a LOT in the past few years. My wife had it done yesterday, and was walking later in the day. SeattleVet 8 hrs ago #21
YES!! It's not the big scary ordeal one would think it is!! Leghorn21 8 hrs ago #27
Aw, man! I'm so sorry to hear what you two are going through! calimary 8 hrs ago #22
Wishing Mrs Bird and you all the best. badhair77 8 hrs ago #23
Sending good vibes sdfernando 8 hrs ago #24
Pain is hell, I'm sorry she's going through this. cate94 8 hrs ago #25
Dear Bird!!!!! My brother has two great friends who both had their hips replaced after years of misery!!! Leghorn21 8 hrs ago #26
""" AllaN01Bear 8 hrs ago #28
Good vibes and best wishes! Whyisthisstillclose 8 hrs ago #29
oh my Skittles 8 hrs ago #30
Sending healing vibes to Mrs. Bird. virgdem 8 hrs ago #31
Prayers and best wishes for both of you JohnnyLib2 7 hrs ago #32
Sending best wishes and healing vibes for your wife from the great state of Michigan. MIButterfly 7 hrs ago #33
Chronic pain sucks! All the best for your wife irisblue 7 hrs ago #34
Praying for an excellent outcome for Mrs. Bird Tanuki 7 hrs ago #35
I am so sorry. I hope her pain-free days come very soon. LoisB 7 hrs ago #36
Sending good vibes, lonely bird! senseandsensibility 7 hrs ago #37
Sending vibes for your wife and a hug for you MustLoveBeagles 7 hrs ago #38
Praying that Mrs. Bird flies through this surgery and walks with no discomfort. hamsterjill 7 hrs ago #39
My struggles pale in comparison. All I know is that BootinUp 7 hrs ago #40
Praying for you and Mrs. Bird JMCKUSICK 7 hrs ago #41
Healing vibes and prayers for her, and hugs for both of you. highplainsdem 7 hrs ago #42
Healing vibes to your beloved wife... 3catwoman3 6 hrs ago #43
Glad to hear that the back is no longer the problem. I've had live love laugh 6 hrs ago #44
You know, it's almost as hard on Tesha 5 hrs ago #45

SuzyandPuffpuff

(489 posts)
4. Yuk
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 06:59 PM
9 hrs ago

Good luck to you and yours... pain is unyielding... I suffer from migraines and scoliosis... take care

Deuxcents

(26,433 posts)
7. Your wife has done everything to relieve this pain and as extensive as hip surgery is, I hope it's the answer
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:16 PM
9 hrs ago

Good wishes coming for your wife and her faithful caregiver, Mr Bird 🌺

sheshe2

(97,038 posts)
9. Sending healing vibes to your wife, lonely bird.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:17 PM
9 hrs ago

Also, my thoughts are with you as well as her caretaker.
Hugs to you both.

jmbar2

(7,910 posts)
13. She has endured so much already
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:27 PM
9 hrs ago

I'm hoping that these next steps give her relief. You are a gem of a spouse to gather energy for her healing. Bless both of you.

2naSalit

(101,868 posts)
15. Sending...
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:34 PM
9 hrs ago

This is what happened to a good friend of mine last year. She had two reconstruction surgeries on her lower spine only to come out of the last surgery in great pain, couldn't even walk... and she had horses. After some complaining she was seen by her back surgeon who discovered that she needed a hip. That was last summer/fall. With the new hip she is doing well, not going to ride horses ever again but she can walk and do her daily thing without pain. She's in her mid-70s.

I hope your dearest has a similar outcome!

joanbarnes

(2,114 posts)
16. From personal experience, collapsed hip repair was a piece of cake...though I did not have the other issues.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:36 PM
9 hrs ago

niyad

(131,508 posts)
17. Holding you and Mrs. Bird in light and love. Vibes for swift and
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:39 PM
9 hrs ago

successful procedure and complete recovery and healing.

IbogaProject

(5,783 posts)
19. Best wishes
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:49 PM
8 hrs ago

Glad the decision for another professional opinion was made and very glad it offers an opportunity to get the pain behind her. Also very glad you're not actually lonely but in name.

SeattleVet

(5,875 posts)
21. Hip surgery has advanced a LOT in the past few years. My wife had it done yesterday, and was walking later in the day.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:50 PM
8 hrs ago

It was minimally invasive (anterior) hip replacement and she was in and out of the surgical center in under 6 hours, including the time in the recovery room until she could walk to the restroom using a walker. She hasn't taken any of the Tramadol she was given since she has very little pain, and has pretty full movement. Doc said she can put her full weight on it as long as it's comfortable for her. She's been up and down the stairs several times today using crutches without any problems. There was even no PT needed!

Hip replacement doesn't involve the long, dragged out recovery that it was like just a couple of years ago, so I'm sure Mrs. Bird will do fine. Passing on some of my wife's good luck to her!

Leghorn21

(14,072 posts)
27. YES!! It's not the big scary ordeal one would think it is!!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:35 PM
8 hrs ago

Glad your wife has improved so radically!!!

calimary

(89,660 posts)
22. Aw, man! I'm so sorry to hear what you two are going through!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:52 PM
8 hrs ago

You certainly don’t deserve ANY of it.

Sending both of you (especially her) lots of good vibes for healing and liberation from pain. Please do keep us posted as she (hopefully) recovers, fully and completely!

I’m thinking of the two of you out for a nice long walk together, with NO pains or complications for either of you.

badhair77

(5,170 posts)
23. Wishing Mrs Bird and you all the best.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:11 PM
8 hrs ago

Thinking of you both along with her medical team. Hope she finds an end to her suffering.

cate94

(3,083 posts)
25. Pain is hell, I'm sorry she's going through this.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:24 PM
8 hrs ago

Sending prayers and good vibes, and a for each of you!

Leghorn21

(14,072 posts)
26. Dear Bird!!!!! My brother has two great friends who both had their hips replaced after years of misery!!!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:32 PM
8 hrs ago

One woman got one new hip, the other gal, two

It was a FANTASTIC experience for both of them!! They were up and happily walking in a day or two!!

I have no doubt Mrs Bird will feel so much better when the pretty quick and straightforward surgery is over!!

TAKE HEART, GOOD SIR
KISSES TO MRS BIRD

Skittles

(170,870 posts)
30. oh my
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:46 PM
8 hrs ago

whenever I have any pain that lasts for a few days it makes me think of people who live with chronic pain, I always wonder how they do it.......wishing the best for you and Mrs. Bird

virgdem

(2,312 posts)
31. Sending healing vibes to Mrs. Bird.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:47 PM
8 hrs ago

Wishing for a successful surgery and complete recovery.

JohnnyLib2

(11,327 posts)
32. Prayers and best wishes for both of you
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:55 PM
7 hrs ago

That's a huge load of stress over the years, tough on both of you. May she walk with comfort soon.

MIButterfly

(2,521 posts)
33. Sending best wishes and healing vibes for your wife from the great state of Michigan.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:08 PM
7 hrs ago

My friend had hip replacement surgery on one hip a couple of years back and couldn't wait to have it done on the other hip a couple of years later. She is now pain-free. I wish the same for your wife.

Please keep us posted.

Best regards,
MIButterfly

Tanuki

(16,399 posts)
35. Praying for an excellent outcome for Mrs. Bird
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:09 PM
7 hrs ago

with quick relief from her pain and good mobility! 🙏🏻 💐

senseandsensibility

(24,758 posts)
37. Sending good vibes, lonely bird!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:12 PM
7 hrs ago

It sounds like your wife has gone through so much. Let's hope she finds relief with the hip surgery. Tell her DUers are rooting for her!

hamsterjill

(17,430 posts)
39. Praying that Mrs. Bird flies through this surgery and walks with no discomfort.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:16 PM
7 hrs ago

Sounds like she has been through an awful lot. I have said a prayer for her full recovery. That is my practice.

I'm sure it is hard to anticipate the upcoming date of surgery. I wish you both some peace and solace as you get to the date. I wish you peace through the procedure, and I wish her a pain free journey back to being able to walk easily.

Wishing you both all the very best...

BootinUp

(51,118 posts)
40. My struggles pale in comparison. All I know is that
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:26 PM
7 hrs ago

I needed to change to head off some big health issues. I am working very hard at it now. I am learning that its when you stop moving it causes more problems. Also I am putting a lot of effort into improving my diet, nothing fancy, boring basics.

JMCKUSICK

(5,800 posts)
41. Praying for you and Mrs. Bird
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:27 PM
7 hrs ago

Thankfully they found the problem, now to get it fixed.
God Speed Lonely Bird

3catwoman3

(29,173 posts)
43. Healing vibes to your beloved wife...
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:52 PM
6 hrs ago

...and kudos to the CNP who made the suggestion to seek the additional opinion.

live love laugh

(16,315 posts)
44. Glad to hear that the back is no longer the problem. I've had
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:23 PM
6 hrs ago

family and friends who didn’t have successful back surgeries and it’s difficult. But hip replacements seem to be much more successful. I’m rooting for you.

Tesha

(21,124 posts)
45. You know, it's almost as hard on
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 11:20 PM
5 hrs ago

the caretaker as it is on the patient.
Take good care of yourself while you're taking care of her.

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