The first Mother's Day after my mother passed away was very hard

[MIButterfly]

She had only been gone three months and aside from the grief I was experiencing, I started to feel guilty about having never taken her out to dinner or brunch at a nice restaurant for Mother's Day. But then I started thinking about what I did do for her on Mother's Day. I took her to Bingo, which she loved. I took her to Chicago to see the Cubs, which she loved. I took her to Cincinnati to see the Cubs play the Reds, which she loved. I like to think I gave her good memories for Mother's Day and that she enjoyed those experiences more than going out to eat at a fancy restaurant.

Happy Mother's Day, Mom! Give Gramma a kiss for me. Miss you both.

[Grim Chieftain]

1. Hugs to you dear MIButterfly

This day can be very difficult for many of us. You're in my thoughts.

[MIButterfly]

2. Thank you, Grim Chieftain!

[mwmisses4289]

3. 🫂

[SheltieLover]

4. Sounds as if you & your Mom enjoyed some great Mother's Days together!

[Tesha]

5. Moms know love

And clearly you gave it in a way that really matteres

[Irish_Dem]

6. I don't want to be taken to fancy restaurants.

It is way too much money and not very fun.

My family descended upon my house for the weekend.
We cooked our favorite foods, I got taken to a movie theater,
first time in many years, to see The Devil Wears Prada,
we laughed and laughed.

Then a wonderful pottery class to make vases.
Then a trip to my favorite Chinese restaurant where we ordered a lot of food!

It was a total blast and I loved every minute of it.
They finally left and I just finished cleaning the house, but I am a happy camper.

[oberle]

7. I always lived a pretty far distance from my mom after I grew up.

For 25 years, I lived in a college town with a great bookstore. That store had a wonderful dirty card collection. My mom just loved the dirty cards I'd send her, especially the Mothers Day cards. I got to thinking about that today.

[calimary]

8. We're all spread out.

Over three states.

But it doesn’t seem to matter since we’re still close, we still like each other as well as loving each other. I’m REALLY proud of them both. And we’re all on good terms with each other, and still in regular communication all around. I can’t think of a single thing to complain about.

And if need be, we’re all within a few hours’ drive of each other. Not too close, but not TOO terribly long a drive away, either.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms here!!!

[Cha]

9. Sweet Tribute to your Mom on

her Celestial Mother's Day, MIButterfly.

I remember it well, so long ago. I wrote a card to her, anyway.

Mahalo~ 💔 💙 ☮️ 🌻🕯️🕊️💜

[surrealAmerican]

10. I hear you...

... and even though I tried to do right by my mother, I still carry some guilt about her years after she died.

I can only hope I've been the best mother (and grandmother) I could be.

[Lithos]

11. My own experience was the same

TBH, Mother's Day is a call to memory and reflection. There is a bit of reconciliation where we always feel measured short. Don't.

Recover.

Focus on how these memories help you move forward and how they help you judge what's right/wrong and the values you need to pass along to the next generations.