My twin sister died yesterday.

[babylonsister]

She fought like hell but she was no match for a very aggressive bone cancer, metastasized from stage 4 breast cancer. She had a few good years before the tumors started growing in her bones, first her legs and finally her neck where a bone actually fractured.

She was in agony the past 4 months and docs couldn't seem to be able to gauge her pain and prescribe something to make her comfortable. She told me she just wanted to die in her sleep, so she did.

Jane had a total of 2.5 days in hospice, her lovely husband took care of her at home the rest of the time until he couldn't any longer.

She was more than ready, and I am so thankful she is no longer in pain, but I will miss her the rest of my life.

#FUCKCANCER

[Rorey]

1. I am so sorry

I've read that bone cancer is extremely painful. What an insidious disease. My deepest sympathy.

[Irish_Dem]

2. Heartfelt condolences to you Babylon.

[Siwsan]

3. Losing my younger sister is still so painful. I can't even begin to imagine losing a twin

My heart goes out to you.

My sister also died of cancer. She never found peace, before she died. That haunts me, still.

[True Blue American]

4. I am so sorry

For your Pain and loss. Go with my thoughts and prayers that you be comforted.

[Scrivener7]

5. Oh no. That is so hard. I'm sorry.

You are in my heart.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

6. Brokenhearted for you.

Jane was a great friend to me, I'm so sorry she's gone, but glad her suffering is at an end. Sending love and light to you and your family.

[murielm99]

7. I am so sorry.

Cancer sucks.

[GPV]

8. I am so very sorry. And yes, fuck cancer!

[Hugh_Lebowski]

9. So sorry for your loss babylonsister

We're here for you

[marble falls]

10. There's just too much loss - Fuck cancer.

[Goddessartist]

11. My heart is with you

May she fly high. Big hugs. I lost a sister a year ago to cancer. She was 61.

[ms liberty]

12. Oh babylonsister- I am so so sorry for your loss

Sending vibes your way.

#FUCKCANCER

[TNNurse]

13. I am so sorry.

As a breast cancer survivor, I will always wonder why I am still around and others are not.

[bucolic_frolic]

14. So sorry

Cancer sucks. Pain sucks. Doctors and their meds ... to be gracious, are not always effective. They ban pain meds for side effects, then give us meds that kill 150,000 Americans. Pain is a personal battle, and it's good to know all of Pharma is on our side.

Cherish the siblings moments. They are like no other.

[bronxiteforever]

15. Babylonsister, I am so sorry.

#FUCKCANCER

[multigraincracker]

16. My heart goes out to you.

I'm from a very small family with only one brother alive. Can't imagine how you must feel.

[PatSeg]

17. I've lost two siblings

I can't imagine losing a twin though. I'm glad she's no longer in pain.

[Scottie Mom]

18. I am so very sorry 😢

While I am not a twin, in my mid 30s I learned that I have half sisters who are twins. Their love for each other and closeness is something very special.

[jmbar2]

19. Deepest condolences Babylonsister

I'm so glad that she's released from her pain. Sisters are the best. Cannot imagine losing a twin.

Take care of yourself as best you can. Write when you need to.

Your DU family is here.

[BoomaofBandM]

20. I lost 2 siblings to cancer. Cancer does indeed suck.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[area51]

21. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[JohnSJ]

22. So very sorry for you and your families loss, and what your sister went through

[sinkingfeeling]

23. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[louslobbs]

24. I'm sorry for your loss. My mom had a similar

experience, a few good years and then the cancer metastasized….it was a relief when she was no longer in pain. I wish you peace and continued strength. #FUCKCANCER

[greatauntoftriplets]

25. My deepest condolences.

A friend who was virtually a sister to me died of that in 1987. The level of pain that she endured was beyond .belief. That was clear to all.

Fuck cancer.

[Solly Mack]

26. I'm so sorry, babylonsister.

I can't say it gets easier because I don't know if that's true or not yet.

My sister was sudden, and your sister was expected but that changes nothing. Someone special in our lives is no more.

I am truly sorry for your loss.


I agree - Fuck Cancer.

[malaise]

27. That must hurt

Deepest sympathy babylonsister

[Lucinda]

28. ❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️

[femmedem]

29. I don't have words to express how sorry I am for your loss.

My deepest condolences to you and her husband, and may you both find peace on the other side of this pain.

[Delphinus]

30. Oh my ...

I'm so sorry for you, babylonsister. My heart holds you.

[Wicked Blue]

31. Oh babylonsister, what a terrible loss!

Words aren't enough to convey how very sorry I am.
Holding you, Jane and all your loved ones in my thoughts.

[Picaro]

32. My condolences

[cate94]

33. I am sorry for your loss

And relieved for her passing. Some things are worse than death.

The night my mom found out she had untreatable lung cancer, she died of a heart attack. We would have liked more time with her, of course, but not at the cost.

Fuck cancer.

[quaint]

34. {{{{{}}}}}

[hlthe2b]

35. Heavens, babylonsister. I'm so very sorry.

I'm definitely with you: #FUCKCANCER

You will both be in my thoughts and I hope the happier memories of earlier times will soon take over your own thoughts.

[LuvLoogie]

36. May she rest in peace

and her love and spirit remain with you.

[moonscape]

37. What ann enormous loss, what a

tragic last months. Heartbreaking.

[livetohike]

38. My sympathy to you, the family and all who knew and

loved your sister Jane. May every good memory of times together comfort you .

[CousinIT]

39. I am so sorry for you and your sister having to go through this hell.

I'm glad she is finally at peace. Wishing you much strength at this heartbreaking time.

[Fla Dem]

40. I am so sorry for you losing your twin sister. How very heart wrenching.

I hope you are finding some comfort that her suffering is over. Peace to you, your family and her family.

[pazzyanne]

41. Sincere condokences, babylonsister.

It is so hard when we lose loved ones, especially to cancer. Please take care of you as you grieve the loss of your sister. There are many of us who support you in any wat we can.

[tavernier]

42. I am so sorry

I always wished for a sibling. I will never have the pain of losing a sister, but I envy you the joy and love you shared with yours and will continue to share until you cross to join her. ❤️

[GreenWave]

43. Very sorry to hear this.

May you find peace some day.

[spooky3]

44. Condolences to you. Nt

[niyad]

45. My deepest condolences on this incredibly sad loss. May she, and all who love

her, be at peace. Your DU family is here for you.

[Dr. Shepper]

46. RIP

Im so sorry for your loss.

[mopinko]

47. losing a sibling is so hard.

i’m sorry for your loss. i lost my next older sister 5 yrs ago. we were pretty much twins born apart.
she spent her last decade in a nursing home w ms. like your sister, her passing was a relief.
miss her a ton, tho.

[JustinBulletin]

48. May peace come to you & your family. So sorry for your loss.

I read your posts always and enjoy them. Thank you for your presence here and your opinions on events of the day. You are a gift.
Take care of yourself.

[ratchiweenie]

49. My heart goes out to you. Losing a sibling is so hard. Loosing a twin must be almost unbearable.

Thank god the pain is gone.

[2naSalit]

50. ...

[madaboutharry]

51. May Jane Rest in Peace.

May her memory be a blessing.


Much love to you and all your family and those who loved her.

[Rebl2]

52. So sorry for

your loss. My mother is a twin and understand the connection between twins.

[Hope22]

53. Sending love to you and yours.

May your sister travel with you. I find my sister in the colorful light the crystal hanging in the window shares. She makes me smile every time. Your sis will show up. My heart goes out to her for the pain she went through. Love to you. 💗💗💐🙏

[LoisB]

54. I am so very sorry, babylonsister. I agree, #FUCKCANCER.

[TeamProg]

55. So very sorry for your loss. Your sister sounds brave. nt

[Maraya1969]

56. I am so sorry for your loss. It must be hard losing such a close sibling.

[Grumpy Old Guy]

57. I am so sorry for your loss.

Neck and back pain can be excruciating. She must have had a terrible time. Rest in peace.

[ananda]

58. My best friend from college died from pancreatic cancer...

in the worst way, in a lot of pain and agony.

It was during Covid and she wouldn't see a doctor.

I hate Covid and Trump in the worst possible way

[mercuryblues]

59. Fuck Cancer

Hugs to you.

[50 Shades Of Blue]

60. My deepest condolences and most heartfelt sympathy, babylonsister.

Fuck cancer indeed.

[Ocelot II]

61. I'm so sorry!

[virgdem]

62. My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your beloved sister.💔

[PatrickforB]

63. Sorry for your loss. It is really hard to lose a sibling. n/t

[sellitman]

64. My deepest condolences.

Most of us at a certain age have lost family or loved ones to Cancer. Losing a twin has to be even harder if that is even possible.

Glad she is out of pain now though.

Hugs

[fierywoman]

65. I'm so very sorry.

[dawn5651]

66. i am so sorry for the loss of your sister.

[TheBlackAdder]

67. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this trying time.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

68. My dear babylonsister, my heart goes out to you at this stressful time.

Losing a sibling is always hard, but a twin is so much harder.

You have lost part of yourself, and my god, it hurts!

My deepest condolences, now and always.

[TdeV]

69. So very sorry. Sisters are precious.

[llashram]

70. deepest condolences

missing a loved sibling is a process to go through. May she have and you find peace

[flying_wahini]

71. My sister has been fighting it as well. She is making preparations now to pass on.

It’s in her breasts, lymph nodes, eyeball and bones. She went strict vegan 10 years ago after her first breast was removed and refused all but minimal radiation and has lived another 10 years.
She was given just a few months to live in 2016 and so we are amazed she has managed to stay with us this long. She was moved to hospice (Canada) months ago after she feel and broke a femur but is up with a walker and back home now. She is one tough bird.

I feel your pain and share it with you. I know it’s coming but hard to get my head around it.
I know you will miss her terribly. Consider yourself hugged. 💗

[piddyprints]

72. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Captain Zero]

73. Sorry for your loss of sister, Jane.

I've known a twin who lost their twin in adulthood. It is a deep grief, because the twin bond is much more than a sibling bond, it really is. It's ok to acknowledge that this deeply affecting you because you two were closer than siblings, actually closer in a different way than a spouse or partner. Please take care of yourself and support her husband as well. Sending good vibes, all that I can...

[tenderfoot]

74. So sorry for your loss

[KPN]

75. My sincerest condolences. It is always so very hard to lose a loved one,

and I do understand your feeling thankful her pain is over.

[StevieM]

76. My deepest condolences on your loss. (eom)

[Tumbulu]

77. Sending my deepest condolences

[sheshe2]

78. I am so sorry for your loss, bsis.

My heart goes out to you and yours.

[cilla4progress]

79. I'm sorry for your sister's suffering, babylonsister -

and glad for her relief.

Blessings!

[MiHale]

80. Condolences...

[Kali]

81. I am so sorry for your loss.

[BComplex]

82. I'm so so sorry, babylonsister!

I've had two people I loved die of bone cancer, and, yeah, #FUCKCANCER!

There are no words. Sending you healing hugs

[onecaliberal]

83. Deepest condolences. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

[Oopsie Daisy]

84. That's so sad. Condolences to you and your family.

[CrispyQ]

85. My deepest sympathies.

Yes, fuck cancer. I lost a good friend a few weeks ago to it. Think if we redirected some of our military budget to finding a cure, or even a way to diagnose it before it's already stage 4. My friend was stage 4 by the time she was diagnosed.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[tblue37]

86. I am so sorry, babylonsister.

[kimbutgar]

87. So sorry for your loss Babylonsister

Sounds like your sister was a real fighter.

[highplainsdem]

88. I'm so sorry, babylonsister. Twins are so close, and I can't imagine how hard

it would be to lose a twin sister. Condolences to you and Jane's husband and all her loved ones.

[pandr32]

89. To watch someone so close to you suffer would be horrendous.

I am glad your twin sister died in her sleep, but the loss you must feel would be gutting. I am so sorry.

[thatcrowwoman]

90. Oh, babylonsister, such a cruel loss of your twinsister. 🕯️🕯️

Heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.
You are strong and brave and dearly loved.
May love and light enfold you, bringing you strength and sweet Shalom, Peace be with you and with your family.
🕊thatcrowwoman

[LetMyPeopleVote]

91. I am so sorry for your loss

[Uncle Joe]

92. I'm so sorry for your loss babylonsister

Peace, strength and healing to you and your family.

[Wild blueberry]

93. Sending a hug

May her memory be a blessing. She will always be in your heart.

[Vinnie From Indy]

94. My heart goes out to you!

I recently lost my dad and I think about him every day.

[CaptainTruth]

95. I'm so so sorry ...

You're in our thoughts.

[MLAA]

96. May your memories and the knowledge she is no longer in pain comfort you.

My dad had similar experience originating from liver cancer. I found comfort in him saying he had a wonderful life and preferred quality over quantity and was ready to go and then no longer in pain. I can’t fully imagine the bond among twins though I’ve watched documentaries about it.

💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[JudyM]

101. Sad to read about your sister's pain, and now yours.

Wishing you a blanket of treasured memories, and extended periods of strength and peace in your heart.

((dear babylonsister))

🌺 Jane 🌺

[Desert grandma]

97. So sorry for the loss of your twin.

I have identical twin granddaughters that are 20 now. We raised them since they were home from the hospital. They are so close. I cannot imagine the sorrow you must feel. May you be comforted by your happy memories of her and your knowledge that your friends here at DU send you warm and caring thoughts.

[revmclaren]

98. I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister.

[brer cat]

99. I am so sorry, babsis.

I can't imagine the pain you are feeling. If it helps, know that we are keeping you in our hearts.

[debm55]

100. I am so sorry for your lose, Babylonsister. May her memories be a blessing to you.

[3auld6phart]

102. Condolences

Go out to you. Iisalways hard to lose ones we, love and hold loose. . Take care and deepregards to your sister’s husband. Take care.

[intheflow]

103. I'm so sorry, babylonsister.

Holding you in my heart today, and will light a candle for your sister.

[barbtries]

104. I'm so sorry babylonsister

words fail. Look for the signs.

[Danmel]

105. Sending sincere sympathy

May sweet memories of your beloved sister bring you comfort and peace.

[IA8IT]

106. Peace to you babylonsister and a "Fuck Cancer" too. Hugs

[mahina]

107. I'll be thinking of her, and of you.

Peace and aloha to her. I am sorry.

[mgardener]

108. I am so, so sorry

My sister means the world to me.

I can't imagine what it would be like to lose her.
I'm glad she is no longer in pain

[FakeNoose]

109. Condolences on the loss of your dear sister

Yes I agree wholeheartedly ... Fuck Cancer! I've lost both parents and 3 of my 4 grandparents to cancer.

Your sister is finally free, and may she rest in peace. May you find solace in your memories of her from happier times.

[Cha]

110. I'm so sorry, babylonsister. 💙

[flamingdem]

111. Huge hug

My deepest condolences and empathy. I lost my sister last year. She loved DU. Also cancer.

[live love laugh]

112. I'm so sorry.

[colorado_ufo]

113. So sorry!

[AltairIV]

114. Sorry for your loss.

So very sorry for your loss. I lost my sister several years ago and while that pain and that hole in your life doesn't really go away remembering all those great years we did have still brings a smile to my face and makes it bearable.

[Blue Owl]

115. FUCK CANCER

[AmBlue]

116. Heartbreaking

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my brother to melanoma. He was just 52yo. They told us when cancer makes it to the bone marrow it's just the worst. I'm just so sorry... but glad she has escaped the pain.

May you find peace in your memories.

[MuseRider]

117. I am so sorry for

such a big loss in your life. Losing a sibling is very hard. She was very lucky to have a husband who would care for her and such a kind and loving sister to be with her and help her.

Many hugs to you when you need them, they are out there waiting for you to call for them.

[Jack-o-Lantern]

118. Love is forever.

Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we are still
Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way you always used
Put no difference into your tone
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes we always enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effort
Without the ghost of a shadow in it
Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is absolute unbroken continuity
What is death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind
Because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you for an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is past; nothing is lost
One brief moment and all will be as it was before
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
- Henry Scott

[connecticut yankee]

119. So very sorry

Please accept my condolences on your loss.

[calimary]

120. Yeah, that's kinda how one has to think about it.

Her pain and suffering - and fear - are over. That’s OVER. Mercifully, for her. And hopefully a wee bit of comfort for you and those who loved her.

[Mme. Defarge]

121. May her memory be eternal.

[marked50]

122. Sorry for your loss. May you find some comfort in knowing that DU loves you.

[TygrBright]

123. So sorry for your loss, BabylonSis. No words, just love. n/t

[Evolve Dammit]

124. My sincere condolences. That is really heartbreaking.

[kentuck]

125. I am so sorry to hear that babylonsister.

She had a wonderful Sister.

[Duncanpup]

126. Hugs

[Tetrachloride]

127. My condolences to you babylonsister and friends and family

[wryter2000]

128. I'm so sorry

But she’s not suffering anymore. It must be really hard to lose a twin

[crickets]

129. I am so sorry, babylonsister.

So many hugs.

[sakabatou]

130. *hugs*

[mzmolly]

131. I'm so sorry

for your loss.

[MontanaMama]

132. This takes my breath away.

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Of course you will miss her forever.

#FUCKCANCER

[elleng]

133. ;-(

[democrank]

134. I'm so, so sorry

Here’s a hug, just for you

[babylonsister]

135. Thank you all, I love your kindnesses.

You made today less lonely for me.

[peacebuzzard]

136. I am so sorry. ((()))so sad and sorry your sister had so much pain.

so sorry for you, bablonsister.
My deepest condolences.

[yonder]

137. I'm sorry for your loss, babylonsister.

[Trueblue Texan]

138. I am so sorry for your loss...

Peace and healing to you.

[yardwork]

139. I am so sorry.

[diva77]

140. So very very sorry, Babylonsister

[raising2moredems]

141. Condolences..

To me, the "gauging of the pain" means a physician should prescribe enough medication to the patient to keep him/her comfortable - the hell with the feds when a person has stage 4 cancer. Who cares if s/he becomes an "addict" for a few weeks at best? Kudos to your BIL, not many (male or female) can/will care for his/her ill spouse/partner.

[Hekate]

142. I'm so very sorry for your terrible loss, Babylonsister

May she cross gently and rest in peace. May your memories be a blessing.

[pansypoo53219]

143. bone cancer is awful. so sorry.

[AllyCat]

144. I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine what she and your family have been through.

Peace to you all.

[mountain grammy]

145. I'm so sorry.

[Deuxcents]

146. 🕊️ wishing you sweet memories when thinking of your beloved Jane

[icymist]

147. I am sorry for your loss

[MFM008]

148. So sorry

🫂😞💜

[SheilaAnn]

149. So very sorry for your loss. May sister RIP...

[cayugafalls]

150. Sorry for your loss...

#FUCKCANCER

[samnsara]

151. losing a twin has got to be especially hard. My heart is with you during this time of such grief...

(((hugs)))

[Dark n Stormy Knight]

152. Such a deep personal loss! 😢

Such heartbreak to see a loved one suffer so.😥

Heartfelt condolences to you. May you find increasing measures of peace. 💜💜💜