a friend sent me this article - good for spousal/partner loss

[imavoter]

from Phycology Today

Questions That Arise as Grief Matures
A Personal Perspective: Coming to terms with a whole new life is complicated.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/widows-walk/202311/questions-that-arise-as-grief-matures?fbclid=IwAR3aiTFmQ0oFlwoxsR37UXPzdmhQYan8YjonXJxxZWlY6BCzLFsaHHhQ4D4

This might be helpful if you are 2/3 years in, or it might be too soon.

Peace.

[Duncanpup]

1. Thank you for posting

I’m 14 months into losing my wife and so like this morning leaving work I catch myself ok heading home yet no Elizabeth.

[Wonder Why]

2. Some of us are close to or into the final chapter and will not make it to

be able to recover from a lifelong love when one or the other dies. We saw that with her parents. One died and the other quickly followed after 54 years together. We are at 51.I know I wouldn't have the time to recover.

[imavoter]

3. I probably should have clarified for those of us at midlife

But does one ever recover? I think I'm just going to have to muddle through for the rest of my life.
Yes, I have some fun, but he's still missing.

My neighbor gave himself a job to do every day. He was in his 90s.
His wife had some kind of mild dementia, just enough where he had to take care of her but that they didn't need help.
Once his daughter moved him out of the house with nothing to do, he died.

It just sucks all around losing people. All we can do is our best with what works for us.