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Marthe48

(23,441 posts)
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 11:11 AM Jan 2024

Well, it's been 7 years

I am doing all I can to be here for our grandkids' h.s graduations, still in the future. I don't feel upbeat and I feel like throwing things. But I won't. Just keep going, one foot in front of another and try not to wonder too much.
Thank you, DU friends. I appreciate the support. I am going to go walk the dogs and pick up the kids from school. Affirmation.

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Well, it's been 7 years (Original Post) Marthe48 Jan 2024 OP
stay strong WhiteTara Jan 2024 #1
I'm sorry, Marthe... cilla4progress Jan 2024 #2
My husband of 45 years passed away 7 years ago today Marthe48 Jan 2024 #4
I'm so sorry! cilla4progress Jan 2024 #8
We can't imagine and we shouldn't even try Marthe48 Jan 2024 #10
This is a good reminder for me. cilla4progress Jan 2024 #11
I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2024 #3
Huggggggs. Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. niyad Jan 2024 #5
I was doing ok Marthe48 Jan 2024 #6
Crap, I was hoping at year 7 it would be better Farmer-Rick Jan 2024 #7
Oh my, Farmer-Rick! cilla4progress Jan 2024 #9
Be nice to yourself Marthe48 Jan 2024 #12

Marthe48

(23,441 posts)
4. My husband of 45 years passed away 7 years ago today
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 11:41 AM
Jan 2024

Cancer. I'm not lonely, but even after all this time, I miss him like crazy.

Ty

Marthe48

(23,441 posts)
10. We can't imagine and we shouldn't even try
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 12:52 PM
Jan 2024

Live so you don't have regrets And make sure you all take pictures of each other.

XanaDUer2

(15,772 posts)
3. I'm sorry
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 11:34 AM
Jan 2024

Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed I want to run around outside screaming and ripping my clothes!

Keep keeping on

Marthe48

(23,441 posts)
6. I was doing ok
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 12:18 PM
Jan 2024

I thought the day was the 27th, but our kids starting sending pictures of their Dad this morning, so I had to check. I think I get the date wrong on purpose. I've spent the last couple hours sending pictures back to them. I love the memories, in small doses.

Thank you Niyad

Farmer-Rick

(12,786 posts)
7. Crap, I was hoping at year 7 it would be better
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 12:45 PM
Jan 2024

I'm on year 5 of losing my 27+ year spouse. I was hoping that in 2 more years it would be much better.

I am better than I was at the 2 year mark. Now, it's just a constant ache and not as disabling as it was that first year. I feel like I've crawled out of a hole in the ground and am trying to not slip back in.

Marthe48

(23,441 posts)
12. Be nice to yourself
Fri Jan 26, 2024, 01:00 PM
Jan 2024

It sounds like you are off the center and heading toward something different. It is different for everyone. I stay busy and that helps so much.

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