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SomewhereInTheMiddle

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45. We did ours for $1200 total.

Tue Nov 25, 2025, 07:19 AM

12 hrs ago

Back in 1995 we found a nice venue (Gracie Mansion) in Ausitn, and they had a nice all-inclusive package deal for 30 (or so) people for $1000. Then ~$200 at the Salt Lick for BBQ lunch afterwards for family and the wedding party.

It was great. And low drama/planning. The honeymoon was a 6-week, 10,000-mile road trip. Cost more but was great.

I do not understand the $100k, destination wedding for 500 of your "best friends". The wedding is a day. The marriage is what's supposed to last.

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