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kimbutgar

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21. Do they live together now ?

Reply to DUU (Original post)

Wed Dec 24, 2025, 03:58 PM

Dec 24

Tell him they should live together for one year to see if they are fully capable so as to not have to divorce. And just say that getting married one should not have to change their religion or give restrictions on grandparents.

I married without living with my first husband who also made these demands and ended up divorced. When I got serious with my current husband I lived with him to see if we were capable and now 36 years later we’ve been married. Tell him getting divorced is bad and he should live with her first for at least 6 months. Those demands she’s making are indicative that she is a self bitch. The restrictions she’s putting on him and her inconsiderate actions after hitting those cars are a serious red flag.

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Any recommendations on dealing with a future daughter in law (possible) narcissist [View all] DUU Dec 24 OP

He doesn't see a problem with her behavior? SheltieLover Dec 24 #1

No he doesn't seem to see any issues. A friend suggested he's thinking with his other head. DUU Dec 24 #2

Sounds like it, sadly. SheltieLover Dec 24 #5

Well, i would NOT want her in my house bluestarone Dec 24 #3

Same here. SheltieLover Dec 24 #6

This message was self-deleted by its author dalton99a Dec 24 #4

I'm not sure this is the right place for your post. MineralMan Dec 24 #7

You don't need "professionals" to figure out how to lead your life. Renew Deal Dec 24 #17

Perhaps not, but sometimes, advice from professionals MineralMan Dec 24 #19

What are the conditions about visiting grandkids? WhiskeyGrinder Dec 24 #8

Firm boundaries. There are good videos on how to GPV Dec 24 #9

Stepdaughter is historonic, her +1 is anti-social and depends on her for direction.... haele Dec 24 #24

Our daughter's former boyfriend, father of our 1 yr old grandson, NewHendoLib Dec 24 #10

Hoo boy. Ocelot II Dec 24 #11

Get help. MuseRider Dec 24 #12

(assuming) your description is accurate, she's likely a narcissist and most definitely unethical. harumph Dec 24 #13

Run Forest Run!!!! Traildogbob Dec 24 #14

Leaving the scene of an accident is a crime. QED Dec 24 #15

Seriously, she's a lawyer. DUU Dec 24 #20

If both of her hit and runs were caught on camera Arazi Dec 24 #22

Some people only learn the hard way Renew Deal Dec 24 #16

Focus on him, ask him questions in a neutral way. Irish_Dem Dec 24 #18

Do they live together now ? kimbutgar Dec 24 #21

Did you ask him how he felt about her driving off after damaging other people's cars? The fact highplainsdem Dec 24 #23