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64. My husband has stage four PC with metastases...
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:56 PM
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…and with treatment he’s still here 6 1/2 years after diagnosis. PSA is undetectable and metastases have disappeared. Unfortunately, stage four PC is not considered curable, unlike the earlier stages. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but in many ways you’re lucky - your cancer was caught early, which means that you have an excellent prognosis. You’ll be closely monitored in the future and you have many options for treatment.

Treatment for PC depends on the stage, type, and aggressiveness of the cancer. My husband has had radiation and aggressive hormone treatment (chemical castration). It has not been easy, to put it mildly, but it beats the alternative. Your treatment should be much easier.

My best advice would be to see a medical oncologist who specializes in genitourinary cancers, preferably at a cancer center of excellence. Do your research and ask lots of questions. Advocate for yourself and don’t be intimidated.

I know the shock of hearing a cancer diagnosis, but you will almost undoubtedly be around for many years to come. I wish you the best.

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... 2naSalit Friday #1
I am sorry you have to go through this, my friend. HeartsCanHope Friday #2
thank you gopiscrap Friday #4
Healing vibes on the way to you. SheltieLover Friday #3
Sending love and hugs your way, Mike C.❤️ sheshe2 Friday #5
Sending healing energy Mike. FalloutShelter Friday #6
Sending prayers and good wishes your way. brer cat Friday #7
Both are usually curable Dave says Friday #8
That sounds like very encouraging information for anybody StarryNite 23 hrs ago #70
Sending Healing thoughts and energy to you- best wishes for quick treatment and recovery biophile Friday #9
I am so sorry. You stick close by and keep us informed. applegrove Friday #10
thank you gopiscrap 10 hrs ago #87
I had the female equivalent - stage three uterine cancer - three times. Staph Friday #11
thank you gopiscrap Friday #12
I wish I had more practical help or advice to offer senseandsensibility Friday #13
Sending you love and prayers...My husbands uncle had what you describe in his 70's 80's Demsrule86 Friday #14
🫶🏽 Mike C 🫶🏽 blm Friday #15
"" AllaN01Bear Friday #16
You have my prayer for a complete recovery from both. My only advice is to LoisB Friday #17
No advice, just holding you in my heart, Mike C. n/t TygrBright Friday #18
Best wishes and good vibes stage left Friday #19
Wow. Hugs to you. LittleGirl Friday #20
thank you gopiscrap 10 hrs ago #88
No comments or advice canetoad Friday #21
Wish you wellness Figarosmom Friday #22
I'm saddened to hear of your health problems. I am sending hugs and wish you a positive outcome. I don't alwaysinasnit Friday #23
Lots of love and healing vibes, dear gopiscrap Grim Chieftain Friday #24
Sorry for that news. 70sEraVet Friday #25
That sucks really bad jmbar2 Friday #26
I know someone who has had both LNM Friday #27
Damn malaise Friday #28
Nurture 🧡 Comfort 🩵 Healing 💚 to you gopiscrap Clouds Passing Friday #29
Sucks to read this. OAITW r.2.0 Friday #30
Hi Mike C.. All the best to you... mountain grammy Friday #31
You will win this fight. mr715 Friday #32
We're here berniesandersmittens Friday #33
I'm so sorry, Mike. iemanja Friday #34
I don't have any personal experience along those lines, Mike, but calimary Friday #35
Bladder twice Nigrum Cattus Friday #36
Sending hugs and healing energy. I'm so sorry you got this diagnosis, but cancer treatment is very highplainsdem Friday #37
Double whammy for sure. Dear_Prudence Friday #38
Half-way through treatment for Gleason Score 8/Stage II prostate cancer Bluejeans Friday #39
Caught it early, eh? Tranquil72 Friday #40
Sending a hug and wishing you all the very best. hamsterjill Friday #41
There is hope dawgdan Friday #42
Best wishes inbound! ... OldBoss Friday #43
Mike, I had a prostatectomy 15 years ago radical cystectomy 2 years ago TexLaProgressive Friday #44
I had Gleason 8 in 2025 bagimin Friday #45
I have Timewas Friday #46
I haven't, but my daughter went thru a Joinfortmill Friday #47
Dear gopiscrap, My husband had Maliginant Prostrate cancer. He always went to his Urologis a PSI test and a Prostate debm55 Friday #48
I am so sorry. Keep us posted. Cancer survivor here. DU Cancer Support Group is a great place for questions and venting Solly Mack Friday #49
Thinking of you and hoping for the absolute best! chowder66 Friday #50
Scary, Man.. Permanut Friday #51
Cancer x 2. Ms. Toad Friday #52
Adding my best wishes for you and the team that is gonna get you back to good health 🌺 Deuxcents Friday #53
I hope you are soon healthy again Mike, huge hugs. Celerity Friday #54
Stage 3 survivor here....you got this purr-rat beauty Friday #55
Wishing you a cancer free outcome. GoodRaisin Friday #56
So sad to read this CountAllVotes Friday #57
God Speed Mike C JMCKUSICK Friday #58
Best wishes for successful treatment! waterwatcher123 Friday #59
Sorry to hear this news JohnnyLib2 Friday #60
A gentle hug 🫂 to you and your family. mwmisses4289 Friday #61
Wishing you all the best!!! CaptainTruth Friday #62
Prayers for you Mike - TBF Friday #63
My husband has stage four PC with metastases... DET Friday #64
Sending you hugs and blessings Wicked Blue Friday #65
Haven't been through this but know men who have had experience with both. Marie Marie Friday #66
I identify Wifes husband Yesterday #67
My mate had both róisín_dubh Yesterday #68
Advice Roy Rolling Yesterday #69
Here's to the Very Best Help & Support Cha 23 hrs ago #71
I'm a nurse. This is scary as hell I know, but you got this. Maru Kitteh 21 hrs ago #72
The Mayo Clinic and the Cleveland Clinic have good websites about cancers along with the American Cancer Botany 15 hrs ago #73
K&R spanone 14 hrs ago #74
These people are with you as I. twodogsbarking 14 hrs ago #75
Sending prayers and good wishes for you, your family and badhair77 14 hrs ago #76
I had prostate cancer about 15 years ago Playingmantis 14 hrs ago #77
Sending you healing vibes and wishes for complete recovery! CousinIT 14 hrs ago #78
You have my prayers and good wishes. CBHagman 14 hrs ago #79
Adding my wishes to you for a fast and full recovery. herding cats 13 hrs ago #80
What awful health news! pandr32 13 hrs ago #81
Positive vibes headed your way. We're here for anything you need. Nevilledog 13 hrs ago #82
Best wishes, gopiscrap! I was diagnosed with stage 4B (out of 5!) prostate cancer in early 2014. generalbetrayus 13 hrs ago #83
Wishing you the best flamingdem 12 hrs ago #84
Hi Mike, I imagine you are in shock. 1WorldHope 12 hrs ago #85
Wishing you a sucessful and complete recovery! electric_blue68 10 hrs ago #86
Sending positive vibes and prayers... Desert grandma 10 hrs ago #89
I have been fighting bladder cancer for a couple years now. SidneyR 10 hrs ago #90
Very sorry to hear. That really sucks. I hope you get good care and can arrest both. Take care, ED Evolve Dammit 10 hrs ago #91
Hang in there...... popsdenver 9 hrs ago #92
I had my prostate out 23 years ago A-Schwarzenegger 8 hrs ago #93
You asked for advice mercuryblues 6 hrs ago #94
This is really good advice re tracking - TBF 6 hrs ago #95
I highly recommend a daily pill container. mercuryblues 3 hrs ago #96
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