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19. I think you misunderstood the poster.

Sat Apr 11, 2026, 09:42 AM

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They aren't accusing you of being dumb. They're speaking in the voice of a survivor of sexual assault. Victims often feel shame, self-doubt, and they blame themselves. That's why they stay in the relationship.

Predators know this and take advantage of it.

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Two issues on our rape culture and one party system. [View all] ananda Saturday OP

" Why did the Swalwell accusers wait so long?" WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #1

Again, contradictions Chasstev365 Saturday #2

" why would you put yourself in the same exact situation a second time?" WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #3

Thank you for this post and your others in this thread. yardwork Saturday #12

Thank you for speaking eloquently on this EdmondDantes_ Saturday #13

How dumb can I be? Chasstev365 Saturday #14

The "you" in the post is rhetorical and is meant to show people what might be going through a victim's mind as they WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #17

I think you misunderstood the poster. yardwork Saturday #19

Well said. ananda Saturday #8

i agree with all that rampartd Saturday #4

The good ole days, right? ananda Saturday #9

If the details are right in the news. Then... RoeVWade Saturday #5

I am giving Swalwell the benefit of the doubt until more concrete evidence is available. Lonestarblue Saturday #6

Well, the timing sure is fishy. ananda Saturday #7

It's very possible the survivors are speaking now to prevent his election. yardwork Saturday #20

I get that. ananda Saturday #22

Remember there were 8 Franken accusers, including some Democrats n/t Ms. Toad Saturday #27

Why do I not believe these women right away? mwmisses4289 Saturday #10

San Francisco Chronicle published facts suggesting they're telling the truth ... Auggie Saturday #21

This does happen. ananda Saturday #28

Well, that sucks bigtime. mwmisses4289 Saturday #32

I know. It's been WAY too long like this. ananda Saturday #33

Your last sentence tends to prove the rest of your post. yardwork Saturday #11

I apologize for doing that. I didn't realize... ananda Saturday #23

Thanks for acknowledging that. yardwork Saturday #24

Tribes protect valuable members OC375 Saturday #15

How many times do we have to go over why victims keep it to themselves? eShirl Saturday #16

The same amount of times there have been false allegations? Mysterian Saturday #18

False allegations are fairly rare. yardwork Saturday #25

They are more common than you think. mwmisses4289 Saturday #34

Proven false often means the victim was so insulted, dismissed, blamed Ms. Toad Saturday #36

I will disagree with that. mwmisses4289 Saturday #37

Rape is the most difficult crime to prosecute Quiet Em Saturday #38

What does proven false mean in your mind - found not guilty by a jury? Ms. Toad Saturday #39

Proven false means just that- the person making the allegation lied about it. mwmisses4289 Saturday #40

My question is about "proven." You've been dancing around, but not answering that. Ms. Toad Saturday #41

I believe I have answered your question to the best of my ability. mwmisses4289 Saturday #42

You finally, for the first time, did something to explain the word you choose (proven). Ms. Toad Saturday #43

Why did the Trump and Epstein accusers said so long? Ms. Toad Saturday #26

Thank you for sharing your experiences here. yardwork Saturday #30

You're welcome. Ms. Toad Saturday #35

I will wait until passing judgment although his case looks bleak. GreenWave Saturday #29

"Why did the Swalwell accusers wait so long?" Wednesdays Saturday #31

waiting to come forward is a consequence of the abuse bigtree Saturday #44