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-misanthroptimist

(2,080 posts)
64. And therein lies a problem
Mon Jul 6, 2026, 07:53 PM
13 hrs ago

Actually, more than one problem.

Problem #1 is that there are men in the world who know how to get away with it for a long time.

Problem #2 is that there seems to be a stigma attached to being a rape victim that prevents women from coming forward, and in many cases, going to the hospital or police when these assaults occur.

Problem #3 is that even when SA occurs it can be difficult to prove.

However, we can't convict people based on nothing more than the same accusation made by multiple people. We can, and absolutely should, investigate such claims completely. But the mere number of claims is useless, imo.

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Nonsense bucolic_frolic 16 hrs ago #1
* Only if they're Republicans. BannonsLiver 16 hrs ago #7
You got me bucolic_frolic 14 hrs ago #45
Hopefully, providing that there is some verifiable evidence... -misanthroptimist 16 hrs ago #2
Oh puh-leeze... milestogo 16 hrs ago #3
Quantity isn't quality -misanthroptimist 16 hrs ago #4
And if this were happening to men instead of women we wouldn't even be having this discussion. milestogo 16 hrs ago #5
You're saying no evidence is required from women making this claim? live love laugh 16 hrs ago #12
I neither trust nor believe men or women based on their gender -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #19
No one said anything about witnesses or cameras -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #23
To prove something in a court of law you need evidence. milestogo 15 hrs ago #26
I agree it can be difficult to prove -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #31
And FYI- attempted rapes are usually not prosecuted. milestogo 14 hrs ago #51
I know. -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #60
My daughter went to the hospital Lifeafter70 12 hrs ago #82
I'm so sorry for what your daughter went through mcar 12 hrs ago #85
The authorities were upset with her because she couldn't do it. Lifeafter70 12 hrs ago #88
First, my heart goes out to your daughter -misanthroptimist 12 hrs ago #86
This happened at work Lifeafter70 11 hrs ago #90
There is evidence. SamuelAdams 16 hrs ago #10
Do you a link for that or a source article on those emails, I can't find one. Thanks. nt blue_jay 15 hrs ago #15
The politico article that started today's avalanche of calls to resign Ms. Toad 6 hrs ago #109
You're talking about a specific case -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #18
Yes wern't most of the first batch of accusations, IbogaProject 15 hrs ago #25
No idea -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #28
No obamanut2012 15 hrs ago #30
No. Try again mcar 12 hrs ago #80
Wow. MorbidButterflyTat 15 hrs ago #37
You can let go of the pearls -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #38
Oh, really? MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #94
What things seem to you is of no consequence to anyone but you -misanthroptimist 11 hrs ago #96
She could be cashing a nice, Republican check. Ever thought about that? paleotn 15 hrs ago #43
Prove it. MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #92
He has not been convicted but there is sufficient evidence and doubt about his story that Wonder Why 11 hrs ago #100
I strongly suggest that you acquaint yourself with the actual statistics niyad 14 hrs ago #57
You should indeed be shaking your head -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #62
Yet, by your statements, every woman who makes a report is niyad 13 hrs ago #65
Nonsense -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #70
You have made yourself perfectly clear. niyad 13 hrs ago #71
Good -misanthroptimist 12 hrs ago #73
As I said, perfectly clear. niyad 12 hrs ago #74
And you got in the last word -misanthroptimist 12 hrs ago #75
They sure have. SMDH mcar 12 hrs ago #83
Crystal. MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #95
She has messages to a woman mentioning it from dsc 13 hrs ago #66
Glad you asked -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #68
We, and they, have had this woman's name for a month dsc 13 hrs ago #69
Great. -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #72
I hear, but there are often no witnesses, believe me, I know. Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #112
That's what makes it difficult -misanthroptimist 1 hr ago #113
You tell me. Exactly how many? -misanthroptimist 15 hrs ago #39
I think it depends on the man. milestogo 14 hrs ago #46
And therein lies a problem -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #64
"the same accusation made by multiple people" milestogo 12 hrs ago #79
Too Much Deference to Platner Starbeach 14 hrs ago #50
He is apparently receiving around 4k/month VA disability. But, as I niyad 12 hrs ago #87
Politico (who broke the story) said that they reviewed documents. lapucelle 15 hrs ago #29
Her account of the episode. lapucelle 15 hrs ago #35
But some here need way more details mcar 12 hrs ago #84
I hear you. MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #103
Thanks mcar 11 hrs ago #104
Careful there. That might cause potential Republican propaganda not to work. paleotn 15 hrs ago #42
MAGA feel the same exact way about their pervert in chief. Raftergirl 12 hrs ago #89
Words in frustration. My original post. paleotn 11 hrs ago #91
Nope. I may not always love a candidate, but I would never vote for a rapist. That is not something one Raftergirl 11 hrs ago #97
I agree, that is beyond the pale. paleotn 11 hrs ago #102
If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. Raftergirl 10 hrs ago #105
Apparently there are emails between her and her therapist synni 13 hrs ago #63
"If this can be believed" -misanthroptimist 13 hrs ago #67
This guy MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #98
Agreed on all counts. :) -misanthroptimist 11 hrs ago #99
I'm so sick of it PatSeg 16 hrs ago #6
Apparently. milestogo 16 hrs ago #8
Yes and that is why campaigns usually PatSeg 16 hrs ago #13
Maybe he didn't think anything he did was wrong MorbidButterflyTat 15 hrs ago #14
I was working for a candidate and a story came out milestogo 15 hrs ago #20
Yes and that's actually worse PatSeg 14 hrs ago #55
or run as a repuke Skittles 15 hrs ago #33
Men who do this believe that most men do this, and Maru Kitteh 15 hrs ago #40
Probably true PatSeg 14 hrs ago #58
The gentleman had some questionable behavior in the past Keepthesoulalive 15 hrs ago #21
he's a straight white man Skittles 15 hrs ago #34
I'm seeing some posts implying if republicans vote for scum Keepthesoulalive 15 hrs ago #41
This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver 16 hrs ago #9
The stuff is hitting the fan. Jacson6 16 hrs ago #11
Good riddance to bad rubbish. Raftergirl 15 hrs ago #16
THANK YOU Skittles 15 hrs ago #17
Or they can switch to the GOP and get elected to the highest offices, i.e. president, SCOTUS. Katinfl 15 hrs ago #22
yup Skittles 15 hrs ago #36
This can cure the problem. twodogsbarking 15 hrs ago #24
Thank You! Innocent Smith 15 hrs ago #27
+1000! mcar 15 hrs ago #32
Susan Collins sends her thanks! She doesn't know what she'd do without Dems doing her work for her. paleotn 15 hrs ago #44
Aww, bless your heart mcar 11 hrs ago #93
First off, he's not my guy. paleotn 11 hrs ago #101
It's sickening. MorbidButterflyTat 14 hrs ago #52
x 1000 RockCreek 12 hrs ago #78
Apparently "Believe all women" was just a soundbite MichMan 12 hrs ago #76
The Maine Democratic Party calls on Graham Planter to drop out of the Senate race. LetMyPeopleVote 14 hrs ago #47
My aunt was nearly murdered by her wacko husband Just_Vote_Dem 14 hrs ago #48
So another 6 years of Collins? The Supreme Court appointments she supported did more damage to 3Hotdogs 14 hrs ago #49
Purge the scumbags. Dave Bowman 14 hrs ago #53
Perfect is the enemy of good. Bobstandard 14 hrs ago #54
This is EXACTLY why I felt he should have been dropped the first time. jmbar2 14 hrs ago #56
This bad publicity impacts on all Democrat candidates. That is why he should go, not the assumption of guilt, but we Doodley 13 hrs ago #59
Winning at any cost warmfeet 13 hrs ago #61
Doesn't seem to matter to Republican pedophiles and their President. live love laugh 9 hrs ago #107
Guess the tent is bigger than I imagined. WinningAgain 12 hrs ago #77
100x WarGamer 12 hrs ago #81
Kick red dog 1 9 hrs ago #106
+1000 applegrove 8 hrs ago #108
I don't think Platner assaulted anyone f64PTjmtR 4 hrs ago #110
This message was self-deleted by its author Stacey Grove 3 hrs ago #111
I'm amazed that when a Democrat leads, things like this come out. AZLD4Candidate 1 hr ago #114
And fuck the rape apologists. n/t demmiblue 35 min ago #115
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