Well, it's done. My husband is in a memory care facility. The first 24 hours

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64. I'm reading your message, and all the repliles,

while going thru close to the same thing. I just haven't arrived at the active track you took yet. I may write out in my own journal what's happening here; I don't want to take away from anything you're experiencing. But it's certainly coincidental that I read your article just 2 days after "celebrating" our Winter Solstice gathering here. I slipped out the front door with a couple of good friends of ours whom we've known for 30+ years, to talk about just what you said here. The decision is agonizing... not only because you're caring the best you can for hubs, but also because you know that entire decision making mode could be stripped away from you if you're not doing the right things at the right time. It's scary as hell... and you have all my empathy and hopes for best outcomes. Wish I could give you a hug right now. No matter what, I know it still feels like an empty, alone space you have to inhabit.