Well, it's done. My husband is in a memory care facility. The first 24 hours

[Trueblue Texan]

74. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but you did the right thing.

Caregiving is THE hardest job in the world, no contest, and I'm sure you did your very best at it. But there comes a time when you realize you just can't do it anymore, especially in cases of dementia. The guilt is agony, but normal. You have to continue to remind yourself of your human needs and limitations. The guilt may decrease eventually, but the only way to make that possible is to meet it consistently with rational thought. You cannot do everything. You are a human. You have limits and if you don't honor them, you may well leave your husband with no one to care for him. I've seen so many caregivers go through what you're going through--it's hardest at the beginning. It will most likely get better, but be nice to yourself and take care of yourself so that you can be there for your husband. He will get better at adapting to his new space. I know you probably already know, but making sure he has plenty of familiar items in his space will help to soothe him. Bring him good things to eat and soft clothes and blankets for comfort. It takes time, but he will begin to relax and accept his new space when it becomes familiar enough. Take care of yourself and try to get some rest. I know you need it.