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40. Oh no, John, this is not what any of us wanted to hear

Mon Jul 13, 2026, 10:05 PM

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My heart breaks for you and for Cuddles. You know he would never leave you unless he had to. I know how difficult it is. I wish I had the right words of wisdom at this sad time, but I really don't think there are any. Just please know I share your pain and sorrow and I extend to you and Toby my deepest sympathy.

Please don't beat yourself up. You didn't fail Cuddles. Cats are very good at hiding symptoms when they're sick until it's practically too late. It's an instinct, their way of survival in the wild that's inbred in all of them. You loved Cuddles and he loved you and that's all that matters.

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I just got off the phone with the Veterinarian, [View all] JMCKUSICK Monday OP

It seems that you are doing him a kindness biophile Monday #1

Exactly. We can give them a quiet and gentle passing. erronis Monday #10

I know you're right, and I feel right doing it, JMCKUSICK Monday #18

Cuddles knows you love him. Maybe he wanted to stay with you as long as he could catrose Monday #39

Your avatar looks like him, he had a round happy face JMCKUSICK Monday #43

Really? Then I know he wanted every possible minute with you. catrose Monday #67

He so loved our walks, JMCKUSICK Yesterday #68

I am so sorry. John. Love, debbie debm55 Monday #2

Thank you Debbie, you're the best. JMCKUSICK Monday #19

Do NOT beat yourself up. Life is finite and, yeah, that hurts Attilatheblond Monday #3

I'm certainly open to that, I still talk to his sister Snuggles every single day. JMCKUSICK Monday #9

😢 johnp3907 Monday #4

How beautiful JohnP3907 JMCKUSICK Monday #11

I love this piece BonnieJW Monday #22

😢 bamagal62 Monday #33

Oh no, John! What did the vet say is wrong with him? SheltieLover Monday #5

His kidneys have just shut down JMCKUSICK Monday #12

Oh no! SheltieLover Monday #13

Thank you SheltieLover JMCKUSICK Monday #21

You are a great guy, John SheltieLover Monday #25

I am so sorry to hear this Alephy Monday #6

Thank you Alephy JMCKUSICK Monday #63

It's so hard 😫 i know Faux pas Monday #7

I'm sorry John Niagara Monday #8

Yu always do yr best SuzyandPuffpuff Monday #14

So sorry Omaha Steve Monday #15

I'm sorry for your loss, it's something every pet owner eventually has to face FakeNoose Monday #16

Love in action, for the benefit of another LatteLady Monday #17

I'm so sorry - it is the very worst part of pet ownership. TBF Monday #20

I remember being thirteen and understanding that pain is the price we pay JMCKUSICK Monday #57

I am so sad for you, John. Nanuke Monday #23

Thank you so very much Nanuke, JMCKUSICK Monday #58

I'm so so sorry. Peace to you, John Scrivener7 Monday #24

I'm so sorry! Ocelot II Monday #26

"We who choose to surround ourselves The Wizard Monday #27

I'm sorry MustLoveBeagles Monday #28

So sorry so sad. I know how it feels. I'm going through it too stay strong. Walleye Monday #29

JohnP reminded us of what they would say if they could talk to us, Thanks for everything. I had a wonderful time. Polly Hennessey Monday #30

❣️🫂 littlemissmartypants Monday #31

I'm sorry you are suffering through this painful time. JoseBalow Monday #32

I am so sorry. ❤️ bamagal62 Monday #34

I am so sorry for you. I've had to let a pet go twice. It is always heart wrenching. He'll always be with you. Fla Dem Monday #35

I'm so sorry. This is hard. yardwork Monday #36

Been there Botany Monday #37

John... LuckyCharms Monday #38

Oh no, John, this is not what any of us wanted to hear MIButterfly Monday #40

So sorry for you. I had to put my kacekwl Monday #41

Deepest condolences to you SheltieLover Monday #52

Thanks kacekwl Yesterday #82

Sorry to hear this, kacekwl Bayard Monday #59

Thank you kacekwl Yesterday #81

I am so sorry for your loss, kacekwl MIButterfly Monday #65

Thanks kacekwl Yesterday #80

Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little one gently home in Your niyad Yesterday #70

Just an hour ago, I posted this in a different thread. maybe it will help a little. 3catwoman3 Monday #42

That's a fantastic perspective, and I'll keep it with me tomorrow. JMCKUSICK Monday #45

So very sorry angrychair Monday #44

Thanks for the reminder that a miracle is indeed possible Angrychair. JMCKUSICK Monday #47

gentle 🫂 mwmisses4289 Monday #46

I lost my "big dog" about five weeks ago. Ilsa Monday #48

Thank you Ilsa, I appreciate the sentiment. JMCKUSICK Monday #51

Deepest condolences to you SheltieLover Monday #53

"" AllaN01Bear Monday #49

Sorry to hear this orangecrush Monday #50

I'm so very sorry. sinkingfeeling Monday #54

Thank you Sinkingfeeling. JMCKUSICK Yesterday #79

I'm so sorry for you. MN2theMax Monday #55

Thank you MN2theMax, JMCKUSICK Monday #56

I'm so sorry, John Bayard Monday #60

Thank you Bayard, I'll truly be honored to do that for him, JMCKUSICK Monday #61

I really am so sorry. LoisB Monday #62

Thank you LoisB, I know and feel it from here. JMCKUSICK Monday #64

My dear friend, I am so very sorry to hear this. Please know that you niyad Monday #66

Thank you Niyad, you must be an answer to one of my prayers, JMCKUSICK Yesterday #69

They will take good care of hm and his sister. And do not be surprised niyad Yesterday #71

I fully expect something to happen, it's crazy how JMCKUSICK Yesterday #74

Thinking of you, and Cuddles Laurelin Yesterday #72

Thank you Laurelin. JMCKUSICK Yesterday #78

Oh John, 😞 I am so sorry you are having to face this. Know that the deep sadness you feel is the true evidence that KitFox Yesterday #73

I've thought that in heaven, he will be a story JMCKUSICK Yesterday #75

Just be there with Toby. Dunc Yesterday #76

Good morning Dunc, JMCKUSICK Yesterday #77