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Akakoji

(483 posts)
21. Thanks
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 04:23 AM
Oct 24

I’ve had patients live for many years after strokes, sometimes a decade of bed care and all but total paralysis. Thankfully, my mom died right after I had a very long conversation with her about her life. I called my younger brother afterwards and told him to rush over and talk with her because she sounded like she knew she was going to die. He was tired, too long to drive after a days work. Getting off the couch she had a massive stroke, tried to walk up a few steps and dropped dead. I’d say 60 seconds. I was grateful. My younger brother spent several years in intensive therapy after my dad called him and he came and saw her after she had been dead for at least four hours. Unrecognizable. Now he insists on taking care of my dad who has had at least a dozen major heart attacks. No bowel control at all. But he doesn’t want to die. He’s not my patient but I can say fifty years ago he would have been put in hospice care, now incredibly expensive, and lasted a very short time. He’s 104 years old. I say if he wants to live we should do what we can to make him happy. That includes lots of meds that are quickly draining his life savings. And my brother’s.

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Here! Dyedinthewoolliberal Oct 2025 #2
Hello fellow 75'er.....am on Medicare plus a something.... eh even really sure what it is, have just a kennedy Oct 2025 #8
Just A & B ... rog Oct 2025 #3
You're on Eliquis long term? Akakoji Oct 2025 #7
Well ... I guess I don't mind sharing this ... rog Oct 2025 #16
Sorry about the bluntness, not meant to be confrontational Akakoji Oct 2025 #19
No problem, but ... rog Oct 2025 #20
Thanks Akakoji Oct 24 #21
Do you mean no supplemental Part D? Akakoji Oct 2025 #4
This message was self-deleted by its author Biophilic Oct 2025 #5
Traditional Medicare Parts A and B..... anciano Oct 2025 #6
Well aren't You special......sorry. Who was that comedian that always said that?? a kennedy Oct 2025 #9
The Church Lady (Dana Carvey) lamp_shade Oct 2025 #10
Ha ha, right, and oh my, I should have remembered that. Loved "her" a kennedy Oct 2025 #12
Same here, age 74. TheRickles Oct 2025 #11
Damn, you are so lucky, well not lucky, good genes, or great lifestyle, i'm just so jealous. a kennedy Oct 2025 #13
Lifestyle factors can make a huge difference - nutrition, exercise, stress management, etc. TheRickles Oct 2025 #15
Wife and I Mystery To Me Oct 2025 #14
I have Medicare A&B Warpy Oct 2025 #18
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