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Mental Health Support

Ocelot II

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2. It's not about you. Depression is a disease, and other people don't cause or contribute to it

Reply to OldBaldy1701E (Original post)

Sat Jul 4, 2026, 07:58 PM

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and aren't responsible for it. You are no more the cause of it than you would be the cause of diabetes or cancer if he had that. Do not take it personally. Just stick with him, try to get him professional help, but don't make it your burden or your fault or a sign that he doesn't care for you. Depression doesn't work that way.

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He just told me that he is feeling su*****al. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Saturday OP

Depression is a beast Easterncedar Saturday #1

No, he replied to me when I asked him why he was acting like he was so pissed at me. OldBaldy1701E Saturday #7

It's not about you. Depression is a disease, and other people don't cause or contribute to it Ocelot II Saturday #2

Hehe... I have tried to get myself 'professional help' for years. OldBaldy1701E Saturday #8

Please permit me a different interpretation? TommyT139 Saturday #3

Thank you for the information. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Saturday #9

I know it's painful Keepthesoulalive Saturday #4

Both of us need help desperately. OldBaldy1701E Saturday #10

I understand Keepthesoulalive Saturday #13

If I may... Lochloosa Saturday #5

I don't feel like going through the last three times I tried that line. OldBaldy1701E Saturday #11

Are you in a state that can provide emergency help for suicidal people? dixiegrrrrl Saturday #6

I do take his comments seriously. OldBaldy1701E Saturday #12