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My mom, age 93 has dementia and is in assisted living. I go over every night after work until her bedtime, and there is a very nice young nurse who comes by to give her a pill each evening. We have a brief but pleasant interaction 5 nights a week, which in recent times included references to her increasingly obvious pregnancy. She had the baby (her third) last week. One of her colleagues showed me a picture of the newborn, who looked very cute and alert, but mentioned the concerning fact that he had "heart issues" and would need cardiac catheterization. Last night I was shocked and sad to learn that the baby had died. I will most likely send a card, if I can find out her address, expressing my sincere condolences, but I would appreciate advice from those of you who may have experienced such a devastating loss as to what was helpful and comforting and what was not, thinking ahead to when she returns to work. I wonder if it would be a burden for her to have to deal with numerous expressions of condolence when she is trying to get back on track? Or will she feel supported and cared about? I just feel so horrible about the death, for the parents, siblings, and extended family.
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