Bereavement

auntAgonist

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4. Honestly Peggy I don't think they see me as a part of anything. Just one of Pam's friends.

Sun Nov 6, 2016, 06:02 PM

Nov 2016

It just would have eased the pain a bit to know what the plans are/were. Even if, and it's there right to do so, if they chose a private memorial service I truly support that.
What hurts is the not knowing anything.
I don't expect to be treated as family, I don't think they owe me anything at all.
Just a few words would be nice.
For some, death and funerals are so very private and I understand that.
I am hurt that they have chosen however to leave me in the dark.

It's not fair, but then, life's not fair is it?

Thank you Peggy, your comment is so appreciated.

kesha

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This isn't about me ... really. [View all] auntAgonist Nov 2016 OP

Oh boy, my dear auntAgonist... CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2016 #1

Honestly Peggy I don't think they see me as a part of anything. Just one of Pam's friends. auntAgonist Nov 2016 #4

I'm glad I could help, even if only a little. CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2016 #6

You were fortunate indeed. I'm just heartbroken. 2 dear friends in a short time. auntAgonist Nov 2016 #7

As you've written it, the family seems to have been so receptive and accommodating.. whathehell Nov 2016 #2

I honestly don't think they've turned against me rather they are just perhaps auntAgonist Nov 2016 #3

That's what it sounds like to me, aunt.. whathehell Nov 2016 #5

There is finally an online obituary posted tonight. There is a private family memorial planned auntAgonist Nov 2016 #8

I wish I had more hearts to give KT2000 Feb 2017 #9