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Bereavement

Lulu KC

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8. Sounds like things worked out in your favor

Reply to CTyankee (Reply #5)

Mon Aug 23, 2021, 01:10 PM

Aug 2021

But still, that grudge has a little energy to burn off.
I have attended funerals and wondered how many people are, at that very moment, remembering something that really hurt or angered them. That's just how it works. We have the norm of not discussing it in the open, usually, but that doesn't mean it isn't in there making us a little crazy as it all runs its course in the healing process.

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Mourning the death of my former husband (father of my 3 kids). [View all] CTyankee Aug 2021 OP

Takes Time DanieRains Aug 2021 #1

Thanks. Just knowing that helps. CTyankee Aug 2021 #2

Every person is different, every stage of grief unique to that person. chia Aug 2021 #3

It is a special form of grief Lulu KC Aug 2021 #4

My problem is that his ex was his former student and it was their affair that caused my divorcing CTyankee Aug 2021 #5

Sounds like things worked out in your favor Lulu KC Aug 2021 #8

I'll have to see the "grieving" widow at Thanksgiving. CTyankee Aug 2021 #11

I am dealing with that... 2naSalit Aug 2021 #6

Yes. I am now planning a trip to Barcelona and Paris with my daughter, mostly for art. CTyankee Aug 2021 #9

The fact that... 2naSalit Aug 2021 #12

Well, my book is about art history and I can get lost in the eras of art that I write about. CTyankee Aug 2021 #13

Far from superficial... 2naSalit Aug 2021 #14

Thanks for the good words and encouragement. I will indeed let others know when it is finished and CTyankee Aug 2021 #16

an odd thing happened when my ex (abusive narcissist) passed a few years ago. Grasswire2 Aug 2021 #7

That is hard to take! It's unfair and deeply insensitive. CTyankee Aug 2021 #10

Mourning the loss of a more innocent self untarnished by bitter resentment lostnfound Aug 2021 #15

Of course, I am always connected to him through our children. CTyankee Aug 2021 #17