Please read this advice column (Note: this is an HOF thread)

[seabeyond]

2. women are far from perfect, we know this. this man sounds like men i have come across over the years

thinking they are so smart in their "psychoanalysis" of their partners and everything is the partners fault, one way or another.

what i really took from this (i did not read the answer, cause the man writing the letter bug me enough), instead of in anyway accepting his wife as she is, and working with that, he is demanding, for his needs and wants for her to change and be what he wants her to be. actually demanding it.

he is asking for a different person that what he married. and i am sure he has been making that demand for a while. if you want to see a person close up, and hide out within self, continually tell them they are not good enough and need to change, constantly.

this man has been unemployeed and drinking issue. he continually points the finger at her and demands she address issues, because he thinks she should.

the letter just did not feel good to me at all.

i dunno. i do not like trying to guess... i can actually ask questions and listen... but, who knows. i would tell the man to fuck off, personally. condescending. i do not like his.... tone.