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mercuryblues

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6. Sounds to

Tue Oct 28, 2014, 11:49 AM

Oct 2014

me like a man who takes his socks off and shoves them under the bed instead of the hamper, then blames his wife for not having any clean socks.

one of 2 things is happening here. She was not like this when they married. However with his blaming the wife for his faults and everything else is sending triggers to her and she is retreating into a safe emotional area.

the other. She was like this when they married and he thought he could "save her". Well with the abuse and trauma she experienced as a child she stays in her safe emotional zone. And dammit! it's all her fault she won't listen to me. He tells her this, he tells her that. She is to blame. Not once did he say he loved her or ever loved her.

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Please read this advice column (Note: this is an HOF thread) [View all] gollygee Oct 2014 OP

I'm not impressed either with the writer's list of complaints or the response. elleng Oct 2014 #1

women are far from perfect, we know this. this man sounds like men i have come across over the years seabeyond Oct 2014 #2

"he is asking for a different person that what he married." F4lconF16 Oct 2014 #8

sounds like my ex mopinko Oct 2014 #3

I think the advice given - to walk away - is best for both parties. djean111 Oct 2014 #4

He thinks he's a psychologist ismnotwasm Oct 2014 #5

Sounds to mercuryblues Oct 2014 #6

And dammit! it's all her fault she won't listen to me. seabeyond Oct 2014 #7

Yup ismnotwasm Oct 2014 #9