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eggplant

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5. Ugh. Paternalistic, heterosexist tripe.

Sat Nov 1, 2014, 12:29 PM

Nov 2014

It really bothers me that "porn" is so often misdefined to such a narrow sliver of sexuality. Maybe instead of lamenting one "source" of information, it would be better to actually TALK to your kids about sexuality and demonstrate that gender roles are not some fixed concept through your own positive personal behavior?

"Men who watch a lot of porn have trouble enjoying real sex with real women?" What does this even mean? And why are the feelings of these hypothetical women not even considered as part of this statement?

"No, son, I just want you to blindly go forth and have a predefined heterosexual encounter with no understanding of anything, including birth control and the feelings of your partner. Have fun!"

Retch. And particularly bad coming from a woman who is reinforcing these same stereotypical gender roles.

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7 Thing I Want My Son To Know About Porn [View all] ismnotwasm Nov 2014 OP

but, Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2014 #1

And that ancient statuary depicting sexual acts is porn ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #2

IKR ... it was so powerfully Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2014 #3

It isn't porn zentrum Nov 2014 #51

Sort of like this OP? Doctor_J Nov 2014 #29

if you say so. - Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2014 #30

Bwahahahaha ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #40

+ Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2014 #48

Porn for the most part zentrum Nov 2014 #4

Well, corporations are people. So, it makes sense. Helen Borg Nov 2014 #13

True, sad point n/t zentrum Nov 2014 #37

Just heard in the past few days on NPR, that "Corporate" porn is hitting hard times. Fla Dem Nov 2014 #15

Still the same. zentrum Nov 2014 #50

Ugh. Paternalistic, heterosexist tripe. eggplant Nov 2014 #5

Spam deleted by MIR Team JuanHamonrye Nov 2014 #8

Sigh. eggplant Nov 2014 #31

Agree to a point ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #9

I think a few here didn't read the whole article. ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #10

Do you watch a lot of porn? chervilant Nov 2014 #11

Actually, I do. eggplant Nov 2014 #27

Oh, dear... chervilant Nov 2014 #32

Actually the post made me wonder WHY we have a society that produces the kind of porn we have ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #41

Too true, ism chervilant Nov 2014 #42

Also, chervilant Nov 2014 #16

have your eyes always been that brown JackInGreen Nov 2014 #6

It's just an article ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #7

Thanks for posting this, ism. chervilant Nov 2014 #17

I was welcoming it ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #19

I particularly appreciate chervilant Nov 2014 #20

Me too ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #23

Others don't hurt your feelings, you do. jtuck004 Nov 2014 #22

I was kidding--takes a lot to get to me ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #24

Oh, sure <G> jtuck004 Nov 2014 #26

No, really... Helen Borg Nov 2014 #12

That is what I was wondering also. Correlation does not equal causation. uppityperson Nov 2014 #14

At this point it would be a chicken and egg situation ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #18

Thanks, I am not up on the latest studies. There are too many things associated with porn to make uppityperson Nov 2014 #21

Sounds like someone who just can't get used to the idea that we use calculators now. jtuck004 Nov 2014 #25

+1. eggplant Nov 2014 #28

The title is what a mother would say to her son ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #33

Porn follows our culture, I think. No worse than what is on tv. If people can't see unarmed jtuck004 Nov 2014 #35

Right ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #38

Huh. Well, you just gave me a thought for my entertainment this evening... jtuck004 Nov 2014 #44

LoL! ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #47

Similar thing I told my son angstlessk Nov 2014 #34

It wasn't all that different in the Dark Ages when I was a late bloomer Warpy Nov 2014 #36

LoL ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #39

Reminds me of the Hite Report from the 70's jakeXT Nov 2014 #43

Joanna Russ: The best cure for pornography is sex-- eridani Nov 2014 #45

Incredible essay ismnotwasm Nov 2014 #46

She is basically saying, one size doesn't fit all, but in porn it is portrayed that way. CrispyQ Nov 2014 #49

Love will get you through times with no sex........... DreamGypsy Nov 2014 #52