My heart is breaking..

[Silver Gaia]

11. I am so sorry you are going through this.

My husband has wrestled with cancer in many forms. He is also a veteran and receives VA health care, which has been quite good over the years.

I saw him go through things similar to what you describe when he went through chemo and radiation. I saw very similar things, too, in terms of mental and emotional agitation when his body chemistry had gotten out of whack due to the chemo drugs. And yes, they put him in ICU, too.

I am posting to offer you hope. He recovered. That was over 15 years ago and he is still with me. He is asleep next to me as I type this on my phone. Give it time. The VA doctors will help bring him back to you.

I know how very hard it is, and how scared you must be, but please try to find some time for yourself. Time to relax and be at peace, as hard as that sounds. This can help you cope with the uncertainty. You are the caregiver, as was I, and we need care, too.

We are all here for you. DU is such a caring and supportive community. Lean on us as hard as you need to. We will hold you up.